Category Archives: Nikah/Marriage related Issues

THE SIMPLICITY OF THE SUNNAH WEDDING

Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said:

_”The wedding with the greatest Barakah is the one with the least burdens (in terms of time, money, effort, preparation and expectation).”_

(Saheeh Hadith recorded by Imam Ahmad and others)

In explanation of the Hadith above, one of the pious scholars of recent times gave a rough guideline that is easy to follow, on the general attitude of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) towards the Sunnah act of Nikah:

_”Nikah is Sunnah. This is well known to everyone. The amount of preparation one makes to perform two Rak’at of Sunnah Salaah that is the amount of preparation one should make to fulfill the Sunnah of Nikah as well. I can’t understand all these (man-made) formalities for Nikah… When someone intends to perform two Rakats of Salat then must he print posters and send everyone cards asking them to assemble in the Jame Masjid before performing the two Rakats?…Since Nikah is also an Ibadat, then what is the need to print cards and gather a large congregation?”_

These were not empty words. The weddings of his own children, and, in fact, the weddings conducted by all the pious (i.e. the truly pious) of each age followed this guideline which was taken from the extreme simplicity, frugality, and informality of the weddings of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and the Sahabah (radhiyallahu anhum).

Let us take a look at just one of many authentically recorded examples from which we can observe the attitude of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and the Sahabah (radhiyallahu anhum) towards weddings, and the “extreme” amount of preparation, time and effort they would exert for this Sunnah.

In the Saheeh of Bukhari, it is related that once Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) saw a patch of yellow (from perfume) on the clothes of his close Sahabi, Abdur Rahman ibn Auf (radhiyallahu anhu), and enquired about it. Abdur Rahman ibn Auf (radhiyallahu anhu) replied that he had got married the previous night. Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) became pleased, did Dua for him and advised him to do a simple waleemah (see Saheeh Bukhari, Chapter on Invocations).

It should be noted that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) was more than a father to the Sahabah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and the most beloved and respected person to them all. Abdur Rahman ibn Auf (radhiyallahu  anhu) was amongst the Ashara Mubashsharah – one of the ten Sahabah closest to Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) who were given the glad tidings of paradise in this world.

Yet, Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) was completely unaware of the wedding of his close Sahabi (radhiyallahu anhu). Neither did Abdur Rahman ibn Auf make it “Fard” that the most beloved and respected person to him attend his wedding, nor did Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) take any umbrage that the closest of his Sahabah (radhiyallahu anhu) neglected to inform him of his wedding, leave aside send a VIP invitation card or appoint him (sallallahu  alayhi wasallam) as the special Imam who must conduct the Nikah.

Likewise, the weddings of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) himself and all the other Sahabah (radhiyallahu anhum) were just as simple. Only a few people would witness the Nikah and a handful of people, usually the Fuqaraa (the extremely poor), would be invited to take part in a simple meal for the Waleemah.

Just the one example described above is sufficient to demonstrate vividly how far we have veered from the Sunnah of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), the Sahabah (radhiyallahu anhum), and all the pious (not the fake “pious”) throughout the ages and even of recent times.

In the wake of abandoning the Sunnah attitude and preparation demanded by a wedding, the Nufoos (base desires of man) and Shaytaan find much scope to introduce “Fard” and “Wajib” aspects into our weddings which have absolutely no relation with the Sunnah. Although, we would not yet dare label such aspects as “Fard” and “Waajib” explicitly, our attitude betrays their obligatory nature. If any of these “Fard” and “Waajib” aspects are ever ommitted we would react far more severely and become far more aggrieved than if we were to wake up too late for Fajr salaat, for example.

Here are just a few examples of these “Fard” intrusions into our weddings which have nothing to do with the Sunnah, and are, in fact, anti-Sunnah due to the “Fard” status we have accorded to them, and which today cause much hurt and grief to all parties concerned:

1) So and so must attend the wedding. If so and so does not attend we will die of grief.

2) Such is my VIP status, there must be more than a handful of people at my wedding. In fact, I am forced to squander thousands of pounds on a wedding hall to cater for the number of people who must contribute to my VIP status.

3) My VIP status means that so and so must invite me to his wedding. If he does not send me a VIP invitation card along with a VIP car to escort me, I will die of grief. I am too high and mighty to react in the manner of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) when the people closest to him neglected to even inform him (sallallahu  alayhi wasallam) of their weddings.

4) Everyone must dress in a certain way or in a certain colour. The simple sunnah style of clothing is no longer permitted. If someone does not abide by this rule or any other “Fard” rule, then he or she is causing the greatest fitnah in the world. It matters not that thousands of pounds must be squandered to abide by these “Fard” rules.

5) The simple Sunnah style of weddings of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), the Sahabah (radhiyallahu anhum), and ALL the pious (not the fake “pious”) throughout the ages, is out of the question and treated more “Haraam” than actual Haraam acts of the greatest gravity.

Etc. Etc. Etc. Etc.

It should also be borne in mind that the Sunnah practice of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and the Sahabah (radhiyallahu anhum) was to boycott any wedding or gathering which contained any anti-Sunnah aspect. One of many Saheeh narrations that can be cited in this regard is the following:

_Ali (radhiyallahu anhu) narrated: “I made some food and invited the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) (to come and eat). He came and saw some images in the house, so he turned back and left (without even offering an explanation).” (Saheeh Hadith recorded by Ibn Majah and others)_

Note that none of these pictures would have been lewd or used for shirk or any other crime, such as the pictures and images which proliferate our houses today. Pictures of animate objects, in and of themselves, were treated by Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) as a grave aberration the presence of which demanded that he (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) boycott a invitation of a close relative. In another narration, when Ali (radhiyallahu anhu) later asked for the reason for the boycotting of his invitation, Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) explained:

_”In the house were curtains upon which were pictures. Indeed the Angels do not enter the house in which there are pictures.” (Recorded with a Saheeh chain in the Musnad of Abee Ya’laa)_

Likewise, the practise of Sahabah (radhiyallahu anhum) and all the pious (not the fake “pious”) was the same.

We end this advice with just two more examples which display the attitude of the Sahabah (radhiyallahu anhu) towards any gathering that contained any aspect which they would consider contrary to the Sunnah style:

_Abu Dharr al-Ghifaari (radhiyallahu anhu) was invited to a Waleemah. However, when he attended there was suddenly the sound of singing, so he returned (i.e. he simply walked out without offering an explanation). It was asked of him (later), “Why did you not enter?” He replied, “I heard the sound (of singing). The one who increases a gathering is from them and the one who displays contentment with a deed is a party to that deed.” (Authentic narration recorded by Abdullah ibn Mubarak in Kitab az-Zuhd)_

In another similar narration involving a different Sahabi, the last statement is attributed to Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) himself:

_Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud (radiyallahu ‘anhu) was invited to a walimah [marriage feast]. When he arrived at the house, he heard singing. He halted at the door. He was asked: ‘Why have you halted?’ He replied, I heard Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) say: ‘He who increases the number of a crowd is of them. He who is pleased with an act of the people is a partner in its commission.’_

Please share this advice. The one who contributes to reviving a Sunnah gains the reward of a hundred martyrs according to Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam).

The Practice of Joint Waleemahs

Question: In Today’s times, we find the practice of a joint waleemah prevalent where the expenses of the waleemah are shared between the boy’s and girl’s party. Is this a Sunnah practice? In the Hadith of Tirmizi Shareef, it is mentioned that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) married Hazrat Safiyyah (Radhiyallahu Anha) during a Jihaad expedition. When the waleemah was held for this nikaah, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) asked the Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu Anhum) to bring whatever food they had in their possession. Each Sahaabi brought whatever food he had and thereafter the food was shared by all. From this Hadith, it apparently seems that the Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu Anhum) contributed towards the waleemah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). Is it possible to use this Hadith to establish the practice of a joint waleemah?

Answer: The Sunnah of waleemah takes place through the husband feeding after the nikaah is consummated. In all the nikaahs of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam), the waleemah was always carried out by Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). None of the wives of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) nor their families contributed towards the waleemah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) at the time of their nikaah.

Similarly, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) encouraged the men of Sahaabah to carry out the Sunnah of waleemah at the time of their nikaah. Hence, we understand that the Sunnah practice of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) in regard to waleemah is for the husband (boy’s party) to host the entire waleemah.

There is no mention made in the Hadith of a joint waleemah being found in the nikaahs of the Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu Anhum) and Taabi’een (Rahimahumullah). Hence, the practice of a joint waleemah is against the Mubaarak Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and should therefore be omitted.

Regarding the Hadith in question, Hazrat Moulana Rasheed Ahmad Gangohi (Rahimahullah) explained that the food brought by the Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu Anhum) was in actual fact the food of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). The Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu Anhum) acquired this food through jihaad, and hence this food formed part of the spoils of war. Before reaching Madinah Munawwarah, this food did not belong to any Sahaabi, as the spoils of war had not yet been distributed among the mujaahideen. As for Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam), Allah Ta‘ala had granted him the exclusive right to take from one fifth of the spoils of war for himself prior to the spoils of war being distributed among the mujaahideen. Hence, this food that the Sahaabah were asked to bring was from the one fifth which was part of the share of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). Therefore, it will be said that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) fed the Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu Anhum) during this waleemah from his own wealth.

Hazrat Shaikhul Hadith, Moulana Muhammad Zakariyya Khandelwi (Rahimahullah), mentioned under the explanation of this Hadith in the commentary of Bukhaari Shareef that the explanation of Hazrat Moulana Rasheed Ahmad Gangohi (Rahimahullah) is supported by the Hadith of Bayhaqi (#17980).

Even if this Hadith is understood to mean that the Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu Anhum) used their own wealth to assist Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) in carrying out his waleemah, it will not be sufficient as a proof to establish the practice of a joint waleemah. The reason is that this was an isolated incident and an isolated incident is not the basis of proving the Sunnah. Hence, it is for this very reason that we find no mention made in the books of Hadith of the Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu Anhum) and Taabi’een (Rahimahumullah) carrying out their waleemahs in this manner, requesting people to contribute towards their waleemahs or having a joint waleemah. Had this been a Sunnah practice, the Sahaabah (Radhiyallahu Anhum) and Taabi’een (Rahimahumullah) would have certainly carried it out.

In light of the above, this Hadith cannot be used as a proof to establish the practice of a joint waleemah.

And Allah Ta’ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

حدثنا عبد العزيز بن عبد الله حدثنا إبراهيم بن سعد عن أبيه عن جده قال قال عبد الرحمن بن عوف رضي الله عنه لما قدمنا المدينة آخى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم بيني وبين سعد بن الربيع فقال سعد بن الربيع إني أكثر الأنصار مالا فأقسم لك نصف مالي وانظر أي زوجتي هويت نزلت لك عنها فإذا حلت تزوجتها قال فقال له عبد الرحمن لا حاجة لي في ذلك هل من سوق فيه تجارة قال سوق قينقاع قال فغدا إليه عبد الرحمن فأتى بأقط وسمن قال ثم تابع الغدو فما لبث أن جاء عبد الرحمن عليه أثر صفرة فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم تزوجت قال نعم قال ومن قال امرأة من الأنصار قال كم سقت قال زنة نواة من ذهب أو نواة من ذهب فقال له النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم أولم ولو بشاة.(صحيح البخاري، الرقم: 2048)

عن أنس أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم غزا خيبر فصلينا عندها صلاة الغداة بغلس فركب نبي الله صلى الله عليه و سلم وركب أبو طلحة وأنا رديف أبي طلحة فأجرى نبي الله صلى الله عليه و سلم في زقاق خيبر وإن ركبتي لتمس فخذ نبي الله صلى الله عليه و سلم ثم حسر الإزار عن فخذه حتى إني أنظر إلى بياض فخذ نبي الله صلى الله عليه و سلم فلما دخل القرية قال الله أكبر خربت خيبر إنا إذا نزلنا بساحة قوم فساء صباح المنذرين . قالها ثلاثا قال وخرج القوم إلى أعمالهم فقالوا محمد – قال عبد العزيز وقال بعض أصحابنا والخميس يعني الجيش – قال فأصبناها عنوة فجمع السبي فجاء دحية فقال يا نبي الله أعطني جارية من السبي قال  اذهب فخذ جارية. فأخذ صفية بنت حيي فجاء رجل إلى النبي صلى الله عليه و سلم فقال يا نبي الله أعطيت دحية صفية بنت حيي سيدة قريظة والنضير لا تصلح إلا لك قال ادعوه بها. فجاء بها فلما نظر إليها النبي صلى الله عليه و سلم قال خذ جارية من السبي غيرها. قال فأعتقها النبي صلى الله عليه و سلم وتزوجها . فقال له ثابت يا أبا حمزة ما أصدقها ؟ قال نفسها أعتقها وتزوجها حتى إذا كان بالطريق جهزتها له أم سليم فأهدتها له من الليل فأصبح النبي صلى الله عليه و سلم عروسا فقال من كان عنده شيء فليجيء به. وبسط نطعا فجعل الرجل يجيء بالتمر وجعل الرجل يجيء بالسمن قال وأحسبه قد ذكر السويق قال فحاسوا حسيا فكانت وليمة رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم.(صحيح البخاري، الرقم: 364)

قال العلامة رشيد أحمد الكنكوهي – رحمه الله -: قوله من كان عنده شيئ فليجئ به ، هذا ظاهره مستبعد فإن الوليمة لا تكون إلا من مال الزوج ولم يأخذ النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم في وليمة غيرها من أزواجه المطهرات شيئا من أحد فكيف أخذ منهم ما عندهم مع أنه قد كان أصاب مالا كما يدل عليه رجوعه من خيبر فلا يتوهم أنه كان لكونه لا شيئ عنده والجواب أنه لم مهنم خالص أموالهم التي كانت لهم وإنما استعاد منهم ما كان فرقها عليهم من المآكل لاحتياجهم إليه والحكم فيما يعطيه الإمام قبل الإحراز أنه يعاد ما بقي إذا خرجوا من الحد فكان أخذه ما أخذه منهم لما أن الرد كان واجبا عليهم وهو حجة للأحناف فيما ذهبوا إليه من أن الملك للغانمين لا يثبت قبل الإحراز ولو آتاهم الإمام إذ لو كان الملك ثابتا لهم لما أخذ منهم بعد الإعطاء مع أنه كان غنيا عنه وإذا ثبت هذا علم أن وليمته صلى الله عليه وسلم هذه كانت من خالص حقه الذي له في الغنيمة من الخمس فافهم وبالله التوفيق.

علق عليه شيخ الحديث مولانا زكريا الكاندهلوي – رحمه الله -: أبدع الشيخ في معنى الحديث معنى لطيفا غريبا ويوئده ما في الأوجز عن البيهقي من كان عنده فضل زاد فليأتنا به فجعل الرجل يجيئ يفضل التمر وفضل السويق وفضل السمن الحديث، إلا أن المعروف في كلام جميع الشراح كما يدل عليه ظاهر كلامهم أن ذلك كان تبرعا من الصحابة من أموالهم، قال الكرماني في الحديث إدلال الكبير على أصحابه وطلب طعامهم في نخوة وأنه يستحب لأصحابه مساعدته في وليمته اه وبه قال العيني وقال القسطلاني فيما استنبط من الحديث مساعدة الأصحاب بطعام من عندهم.(لامع الدراري على جامع البخاري، 1/147)

أخبرنا أبو عبد الله الحافظ ثنا أبو جعفر محمد بن صالح بن هانئ وأبو عبد الله محمد بن عبد الله بن دينار قالا ثنا السري بن خزيمة ثنا موسى بن إسماعيل ثنا سليمان بن المغيرة ح قال وأنبأ أبو بكر بن إسحاق الفقيه أنبأ أحمد بن سلمة ثنا عبد الله بن هاشم ثنا بهز ثنا سليمان بن المغيرة عن ثابت ثنا أنس رضي الله عنه قال صارت صفية لدحية في مقسمه وجعلوا يمدحونها عند رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ويقولون ما رأينا في السبي مثلها. قال فبعث إلى دحية فأعطاه بها ما أراد ثم دفعها إلى أمي فقال أصلحيها. قال ثم خرج رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم من خيبر حتى جعلها في ظهره نزل ثم ضرب عليها القبة فلما أصبح قال من كان عنده فضل زاد فليأتنا به. قال فجعل الرجل يجيء بفضل التمر وفضل السويق وفضل السمن حتى جعلوا من ذلك سوادا حيسا فجعلوا يأكلون من ذلك الحيس ويشربون من حياض إلى جنبهم من ماء السماء. قال: فقال أنس: وكانت تلك وليمة رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم عليها.(السنن الكبرى للبيهقي، الرقم: 17980)

(قوله دعي إلى وليمة) وهي طعام العرس وقيل الوليمة اسم لكل طعام (رد المحتار 6/347)

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ibrahim Salejee

The ‘Divorce’ of a Secular Court

Question: The following are some questions on marriage and divorce posed by a brother in the U.K. to a South African Mufti. The Mufti’s fatwa is also provided herewith. What is the status of this fatwa?

Divorce in a civil court

Question: I want to ask you a few questions before I make a decision about marrying a second wife. I am not satisfied with my marriage with my first wife. This is due to a lack of affection and neglect from my first wife. I have had this problem for 5 to 6 years now and I have tried to talk to my wife to resolve how I feel but nothing seems to better my situation, and I have now given up. I still care about my first wife and I still want to provide for her and our 3 children. I want to marry a second wife but I don’t want to commit a sin. The UK law does not recognise a second wife. It is actually illegal in the UK to have a second wife, although it is fine to have a mistress. As I am aware that there is an Islamic ruling that I should abide by the law of the country that I reside in.

1. My question is, if I get permission from my first wife, and provided I fulfil both wives rights, will I be committing a sin to have a second wife in the UK?

2. Does a divorce through the UK civil court break the Islamic nikah? (From my own research I have found that it does not break the Islamic nikah)

3. I have met a person from Morroco who has accepted to be my second wife, but to bring her to UK I have to first divorce my first wife through the UK civil court. Can I do this in order to bring my second wife into the UK? I do not want to break the nikah to my first wife.

A: 1. Whether it is UK or US, the laws remain the same. The laws do not change. However, we advise that you do something that is free of problems and worries.

2. If the husband consents or instructs the court to divorce then the divorce is valid.

3. The divorce that is issued is recognised and valid in the shariah.

And Allah Ta’ala knows best. (End of fatwa)

Please comment. Is this fatwa correct? To even a layman it does not seem right.

ANSWER (by Mujlisul Ulama):

The Mufti has acquitted himself most stupidly. He is a liberal, hence he issued a bunkum ‘fatwa’. The Muslim does not and cannot ‘instruct’ the court. He can only petition and ask the court.

When a man asks a kaafir court to annul his civil ‘marriage’, which is not a Nikah in Shar’i terms, he is asking for the cancellation of the secular contract, not for the issuance of Talaaq.

Secondly, he ‘asks’  the court for a ‘divorce decree’. The meaning of ‘divorce’ in the context is cancellation of the civil contract. Only a maajin mufti with fossilized brains (jumood) will ignore the context and the circumstances, and baselessly cling to the ostensible meaning if the term is translated into Arabic or Urdu for the context in which it is used. The court issues such a decree at its will and discretion. It is not obliged to comply with the request of the Applicant.

Thirdly, the applicant does not empower the kaafir court to issue Talaaq. Fourthly, the applicant does not employ the kaafir judge to be his wakeel to issue Talaaq to his wife.

It is crystal clear that the Mufti has acted stupidly, labouring in the state of intoxication due to substance abuse. The ‘substance’ in this context is western liberalism which has been adopted for fulfilment of the demands of Hubb-e-Jah.

Just ignore the drivel disgorgement. It is an insult to the Deen and an insult to the mufti’s brains to have vomited such a blatant stupidity.

Furthermore, while it is only proper to inform the first wife, it is not a condition for the validity of the second marriage, nor is her consent necessary for the validity of a second, third or fourth marriage.

The ‘divorce’ decree issued by a secular court whether the judge is a kaafir or posing as a Muslim as all so-called Muslim judges of secular courts even in Muslim lands do, the decree is NOT a Talaaq.

The Shari’i Silver Dirham: Reviving the Blessed Form of Mahr

By a sister (15 Shaaban 1430 Hijri)

All praise and gratitude are only for Allah Almighty. We seek guidance and forgiveness from Him. We also seek refuge in Him from the evils of our own doing. Whoever Allah guides, none can lead him astray. Whoever He leaves to go astray, none can guide him back to the right way. We testify that there is no God but Allah, and we testify that Muhammad is the servant of Allah and His Messenger.

The soul, the heart and the mind were created in a balance, in a state of fitrah or a natural state of the human being. In the Holy Qur’an, Allah Almighty says:

“… Allah has endeared Faith (Iman) to you, and has made it beautiful in your hearts …” [Surah al-Hujurat 49:7]

Central to the union of hearts, minds and souls is the oldest ‘contract’ between two people in marriage, made in the name of Allah the All-Seeing, the Witness. So critical is this contract in the building of a thriving Islamic community, i.e. by bringing families together, that the realization of this part of one’s life is equated to fulfilling half of one’s faith. And the heart knows that at the threshold of the commitment with one’s soulmate, that God the al-Wadud (the Loving) sanctions this sacred institution.

“And of everything, We have created pairs that you may be mindful.” [Surah az-Zariyat 51:49]

At the treshold of Marriage 

In the search for a relationship that brings love, trust, harmony and compassion, we refer to the Holy Qur’an (for people of understanding) and its description of marriage.

“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts) …” [Surah ar-Rum 30:21]

When Allah unites two partners in Islam, it is the strongest of bonds. A du’a or prayer by a couple could be as follows:

“I enter this contract, this act of worship, in the name of our Creator and Sustainer, as a servant of God. I enter this sacred institution to grow and enrich my life and that of others. My companion in this journey is one who fears Allah in all matters, and who knows his/her ultimate return is to God, the Sublime, the All-Forgiving.”

Aameen, and a very essential aspect of binding this sacred contract is the mahr.

What is the Mahr?

The mahr is a compulsory part of an Islamic marriage contract. It is a gift of money, possessions or property made by the husband to the wife, which becomes her exclusive property. It is an admission of her independence, for she becomes the owner of the money or property immediately, even if she may have owned nothing before. It is also intended as a token of the husband’s willing acceptance of the responsibility of bearing all the necessary expenses of his wife.

“And give to the women (whom you marry) their mahr with a good heart …” [Surah an-Nisa’ 4:4]

The Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) gave each of his wives apayment of mahr ranging from token sums such as the granting of freedom from slavery when being made a wife, to the payment of 500 Shari’i silver dirhams. His wife Umm Habibah’s mahr consisted of 500 Shari’i gold dinars which is the equivalent of 5,000 Shari’i silver dirhams then, this sum having been fixed by Najashi, the Negus (a Christian ruler) of Abyssinia (Abu Dawud, Kitab an-Nikah, 2:235).

There was in fact no fixed upper limit for mahr. Allah Almighty required the provision to depend upon the circumstances of the husband:

“… The wealthy according to his means, and the straitened in circumstances according to his means. The gift of a reasonable amount is necessary from those who wish to act in the right way.” [Surah al-Baqarah 2:236]

Caliph Umar ibn al-Khattab (radiyallahu ‘anhu) once gave a public sermon in which he asked the congregation to refrain from fixing heavy mahrs, and said that the Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) had declared none should give more than 500 Shari’i silver dirhams. A woman immediately stood up and challenged him quoting the verse:

“But if you decide to take a wife in place of another, even if you had given the first a heap of gold (qintar) for a dowry, you shall not take the least bit back …” [Surah an-Nisa’ 4:20]

Caliph Umar ibn al-Khattab (radiyallahu ‘anhu) then went back to the minbar and withdrew his words stating: “The woman is right, and Umar is wrong. Whoever wishes may give as much property as he wishes to give.” [Narrated by Ibn Hajar al-Athqalani, Fath al-Bari, 9:167].

This does not mean that the woman is a product to be sold, rather it is a symbol of honour and respect, and a sign that the husband is willing to shoulder his responsibilities and fulfill his duties. Shari’ah does not stipulate a certain limit for the mahr that should not be overstepped, but it does encourage reducing the mahr and keeping it simple.

The Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: “The best of marriage is that which is made easiest.” [Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, classed as Sahih by al-Albaani in Sahih al-Jaami’, 3300].

The Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) also said: “The best of mahrs is the simplest (or most affordable).” [Narrated by al-Haakim and al-Bayhaqi, classed as Sahih by al-Albaani in Sahih al-Jaami’, 3279].

Following the Footsteps of the Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam)

The Sasanid Persian king in power during all the marriages of the Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) was Khusrau II who ruled from 590 – 628 CE. According to Islamic tradition, the standard mahr being paid by the Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) to his wives including Khadijah (radiyallahu ‘anha) and Aishah (radiyallahu ‘anha) was 500 Shari’i silver dirhams. They were actually Sasanid silver drachmas from the era of Khusrau II. The Sasanians used the silver drachma currency that was minted according to the standards of Alexander the Great who had defeated King Darius III and conquered the Persian empire in the year 330 BC. In fact, it was Alexander who simplified the exchange rate between silver and gold by fixing it at 10 units of silver to equal one unit of gold.

Based on this clear historical fact, we can picture the Shari’i silver dirham being used as mahr by the Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) as follows:

1 Shari’i silver dirham (4 g) during the time of Prophet’s marriage to Khadijah in 594 CE

The average weight of the silver drachmas of Khusrau II was between 4.11 – 4.15 grams (source: E.J.Brill’s First Encyclopaedia of Islam, 1913-1936) and their average purity of silver was considered the highest of its time at 95%. (source: “Sasanian and Arab-Sasanian Silver Coins from Turfan: Their Relationship to International Trade and the Local Economy” by Jonathan Karam Skaff).

The subsequent silver dirhams minted by latter Arab rulers especially during the Umayyad era only had a silver purity of between 85 – 90%. Therefore, we can safely conclude that the Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) prescribed only the highest fineness of silver coinage available for his beloved Ummah at the time. For a silver dirham to be considered as Nuqud or of good cash value then, it had to be at least 4 grams in weight. With these parameters in mind and to adapt to today’s international bullion coinage standards, the Shari’i 10-dirham coin was minted with a weight of 40 grams and a silver fineness of 999.

To revive the Sunnah of the actual mahr used, steps were taken to market the Shari’i silver dirham in a convenient and presentable form for couples who wish to marry according to the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam).

Shari’i silver 10-dirham coin minted locally bearing the image of Masjid al-Aqsa
70 Shari’i silver 10-dirham coins (700 dirhams) used as mahr in a recent wedding

According to Islamic Fiqh, there is no minimum or maximum limit to the amount of Shari’i silver dirhams to be used as mahr in a wedding, and the future potential for their use in any denomination is limited only by the human mind. More importantly, bullion silver in any form will always be considered as an internationally accepted value of exchange for goods and services in any economy anywhere around the world. Hence, the future of mahr in the form of the Shari’i silver dirham can only get brighter, inshaAllah.

 

Late Marriages and the Traps of Shaitaan

By Brother Ali Asghar Shah

One of the major bid’ah of our time is the incessant delay in marriage due to high worldly aspirations and other vain reasons. What actually this does is that it helps in increasing divorce rates and haram in the society because;

1. Late marriage: By this time man or women or both become already so complex in their thinking and many of them (Not all) have had past illicit relationships and this leads to clash in compatibility, unsettles heart and mind and sophisticated thinking.

2. Carefree life: One gets used to carefree life, a women no longer recognizes Allah’s given way of life for her and she plays being a man in a society and this ultimately leads to a clash which is going against the Nizam of Allah. Like day and that of night. (Turning night into day vice versa). How many have fallen in this trap and how many end up fixing the appointment with a psychiatrist for depression.

3. Mass Media and new trends of feminism: Most of the marketing we find through movies, bollywood/hollywood and other programmes is that they are promoting “feminism” and promoting a mindset which undervalues the actualy purpose and role of marriage in the society. Such mindset is carried by the couples and in turn causes much disarray in their thoughts and eventually argumentation. The impact of mass media is catastrophic for the ideal Islamic lifestyle. You cannot stop being influenced to some degree of the other.

Family members who themselves were raised by materialistic people obviously imbibe these values as inheritance and their criteria of marriage is so high and aspirations so high that they make marriage a very costly and expensive affair where the boy has to be not less than owner of a white house or palaces etc etc. This would eventually become a burden for the financially less affluent people in the society and in turn cause more delay.

Consequences;

Divorce is after marriage but before that this gives a license to the already weak believers to get into haram relationships and cause more damage to their soul. The parents do not mind it as much as they mind their early decision of marriage. SubhanAllah look at the state of affairs!

This is one of the tricks of Shaytaan and Dajjalic system to increase Zina and ruin the beauty of a family life and to ruin the chastity and in turn the Imaan of the person.

The women have problems in conceiving because of late marriage too. The person they end up marrying has had already many girlfriends or still has extramarital affairs.

I do not generalize this thing but marriage has purpose of safeguarding our eyes and Iman and purpose of having a pious and productive and a healthy family a more contribution to Deen and the society at large.

May Allah grant us tawfiq to abstain from these Bidats and follow the Nur of Sunnah.

Some people will cry a lot at the mention of the name of Bibi Fatima Zahra (Radhiyallahu Anha) and they would go to extremes in the limits of Shairah and do acts in ghulu which Shariah has given no permission of. With only lip servicing without any actions, or with actions for show and hypocrisy.

What comes from the hands is generally hypocricy and what comes from the eyes is what comes from the heart. The Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) has not left any field of human life from birth to passing away devoid of any guidance, rather Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi Wasallam) has taught us way of life covering all aspects in our earthly abode.

Be it going to the market, or graveyard or marriage or warfare or politics or in grief and mourning in merry making and all aspects of life is covered. Best way of life is the Prophetic way of life and any innovation is discarded for then an innovation would imply that the Prophetic way of life is incomplete! Allah forbid!

Having said this my main aim is that many people who claim and exclaim their love for such great personalities of Islam are the very people who end up following the materialistic way of life which is poles apart from the pious life of Bibi Fatima (Radhiyallahu Anha)

Our women do not take Bibi Fatima, Bibi Khadija, Bibi Ayesha (Radhiyallahu Anhum) as their role models but claim to love them a lot and follow them.
Some even state that it is not possible to follow them then I ask them who is greater Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) or Hazrat Ali (Radhiyallahu Anhu) or Bibi Fatima or Bibi Ayesha. Answer is ofcourse the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) is Afzal of all but the Quran tells us that in the life and model of Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) we have an excellent example.

And time and again in the Qur’an al Karim it is mentioned to Obey Allah and Obey the Messenger and to follow the Prophet. Why would Allah Almighty command us to follow the Uswa e Hasanah of Imamul Ambiyaa (Sallallahu Alayhi wasallam) then.

But the times we live in are different where pride in the mantle of many sadaats and many think they are the best only because of lineage. But let me tell them it is reported that “ A Habshi slave who follows Islam is better than a Quraishi Hashmi who does not” It is the actions of the person which elevate him in front of Allah and not lineage. For Miyaar for Allah is Taqwa.

The import of what I am saying is the importance of following Islam with the zaahir and the baatin is the real Maqsood here.

But look at the situation at hand today Alas! we are eager to follow the west and its lifestyle instead. Religion has just been confined to a few rituals to be part of society but the Ruh is missing.
Even your appearance is not like Ummati of Prophet Muhammad Saws. You feel ashamed to follow the Sunnnah of Bibi Fatima s.a of Purdah and Hijab and you feel ashamed of keeping a beard which is Sunnah of Imamaul Ambiyaa (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) but you will follow the Sunnah of Majoos and Kuffar of clean shaving your beard.

When one adopts the appearance of a people he starts to like their things and culture and ways. This is a human nature.

This is weakness of Iman and corruption of heart and is a result of disease of the heart.

Change now before it is too late change before it is time to go to grave for at the time of death no Taubah is acceptable. How many of your loved ones passed away in front of your very eyes yet you do not change yourself. O ibn Adam do not commit zulm and oppression on your own selves.

Obey the Messenger and Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. This is the straight path.

What is greater than Allah loving us and being in the company of Prophets and Saaliheen in Jannah. Ahh what all will many will miss out on. Ask those who departed that if they were given one day in this life back what will they do???? And you will get the answer.

Wasalaam

WEDDINGS, WALIMAS AND SHOWERS

By Jamiatul Ulama Gauteng

There are many customs and trends which have their affiliation with the non-Muslim culture and lifestyle. 

Many Muslims, due to being afflicted with what appears to be a truly insecure and inferior complex, look towards and choose the customs and trends of the non-Muslims over that of the beautiful Sunnah. 

It seems as if the need is to secure a kind of acceptance in a non-Muslim society and just blend in with them – so that we are not recognized as Muslims.

(sadly) Bridal Showers and Baby Showers have become synonymous with the Muslim lifestyle as it is with the rest of the non-Muslim lifestyle.

Many may ask: What’s wrong with giving gifts, congratulating the bride-to-be or the new mother, or having a get together with friends?

There is nothing wrong with giving the bride or the new mother a gift, or congratulating the person. To give a gift and congratulate are from the teachings of Islam – and would draw rewards … but there are conditions to be met in even these noble deeds.

What is extremely wrong and objectionable is the background to these good deeds. They are not within the parameters of Shari’ah.

The picture of a typical bridal shower and baby shower is not typical with the Sunnah. 
It is typical of the non-Muslim way of life. 

By following suit, we fall into the sin of “Tashabbu bil Kuffaar” (emulating the disbelievers). It is aligning oneself with those who have rejected Allah Ta’ala, who live their lives in immorality and disobedience (to their Owner, Allah the Owner and Master of All the worlds).

Jews do not have baby showers prior to the birth of a child. Some do not buy any baby items or set up the nursery until the child is born.

The custom stems from the idea that drawing attention to a happy occasion draws the attention of evil spirits and the evil eye. They believe that a baby shower is an outright invitation to the evil eye to descend upon the unborn baby in vengeance for rubbing your happiness in others’ faces and “counting your chickens before they hatch.”

Nikah is a great Ibaadah. Pregnancy and the birth of a child also have their requisites in Islam. 

However, the west has commercialized all of these noble occasions, and made them into money-making events. The sacredness of these occasions is forgotten.

…Today, Nikah’s have taken on a distinct mould of a Hollywood or Bollywood style wedding – where the bride is dressed to look like a Christian bride or a Bollywood actress – with no sign of Islam on her; and the groom is dressed in a suit and tie, looking like a typical (non Muslim) Christian groom.

Adding insult to injury is the extravagance and open sin at the time of the wedding and Walimah. One’s mind moves in the direction of the millions and millions who are suffering famine and starvation, who have no home, no water, no food, no clothing – but the Muslim ignores all that suffering just for some fleeting attention and praise???

All those hundreds of thousands of Rands wasted on draping a hall, on dressing the chairs, on wine glasses, on musicians, photography, on wedding cards that are thrown away, etc. is money which could have been the means of alleviating the plight of so many suffering people.

One brother handed me an elaborate invitation card for his daughter’s wedding. I enquired as to the cost of the wedding card, and was told that each card cost R50. Advising him, I told him that almost all people throw away wedding cards. People generally dispose of them. So he should regard that as people throwing away hundreds of his R50 notes. Would he throw R50 notes into a bin? No. 

However, the throwing away of those cards is equal to throwing away R50 notes. That same money could have been used in making the Aakhirah. (the Hereafter)

Even those who are known to be religious will waste thousands on halls, on décor, etc. sacrificing the pleasure of Allah Ta’ala and Rasulullah (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam). 

Those who were meant to set the noble example of the Sunnah, who we expect are living the Sunnah – knowingly choose to forsake the Sunnah. 

Simplicity, which is part of Imaan (true belief), is a rare sight in these times.

Hazrat ‘Ayesha (radhiyallahu ‘anha) related that Nabi (šallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said: 
‘Verily, the most blessed Nikah (wedding) is that which involves the least difficulty (expenditure).’

We have a perfect Sunnah – a Perfect Way of Life in the life of our Nabi (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and in the lives of his Companions, men and women.
We have what is superior to all other cultures yet we consider everything else. It shows great weakness if we give preference to the culture of the Christians, Jews and Idol worshippers over the noble Sunnah of Rasulullah (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam).

We are exchanging (flawless) diamonds for (worthless) stones… and what an unprofitable exchange this is! What a great loss!

Nabi (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: 
“Whoever emulates (copy or apes) a nation is from amongst them.”

In another Hadith, it is stated: “A person is with whom he loves.”

Nabi (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) also said that we will be raised on the Day of Reckoning with those whom we imitate in this worldly life. (May Allah Ta’ala save us from such disgrace and humiliation, Aameen)

Emulating the non-Muslim culture is one downfall but there are many more that are found in the Bridal and Baby Showers.

The non-Muslims have coined a novel concept of begging – especially amongst the upper-class. It seems as if some, from amongst the wealthy, have developed an art to begging. They even have a name for it. In the name of Bridal Showers, Baby Showers, Registries, people gracefully and politely extend their hands, and they ask and take from others.

The bride-to-be chooses her gifts from exclusive stores that offer a “registry” or she unashamedly hands out a list of those items she wants gifted to her. In the process, she places pressure and financial difficulty and sometimes a great burden on others – to purchase those gifts that she has chosen.

At the get-together, these gifts and other gifts are presented to the bride-to-be, who opens them and shows them to all present – and each person can assess the kind of money that was spent on the gift given. 

Let us now consider the various wrongs in this act:

..a person is forced to purchase gifts that the bride has chosen – which may be beyond her budget in spending.

..a person who gives something simple or inexpensive will feel ashamed and embarrassed, considering the manner in which gifts are being received and shown to others.

The Hadith encourages giving gifts because giving gifts creates Muhabbah (love). 

If Muhabbah is not created then this proves that either the giver or receiver in insincere.

..sometimes, people give with intentions other than expressing their Muhabbah. However, there are many who request or are desirous of receiving and there is a kind of greed from the receiving side. This request or expectation (ishraaf) reveals insincerity from the one who is receiving.

A gift must be given happily and willingly – and should be received graciously and thankfully. This is the Sunnah. (practice & teachings of Nabi Moehammad peace and blessings be upon him)

However, when we ask of people, as in the case of registries, etc. – people will give, but they give unhappily and unwillingly. …and if some gift is given, which is not to our liking, then we receive it without any appreciation and thanks. This is our lamentable condition.

Another aspect that has also been brought to attention is the immorality and shamelessness at such gatherings – with indecent talk, shameless dressing by Muslim women, inappropriate games, music, dancing and such filthy entertainment, that we would not want to bring on to our tongues. It is not permissible for a person to attend such gatherings. The Shari’ah instructs us:

‘IT IS NOT PERMISSIBLE TO BE PRESENT IN A GATHERING WHERE ALLAH TA’ALA IS BEING DISOBEYED.’

Moreover, a person’s presence is aiding in promoting and glorifying what is not permissible. We are told not to assist each other in sin; rather to assist in what is righteous:

“Help each other in righteousness and piety, and do not help each other in sin and aggression.”
[Al Quran Surah Al-Maa’idah 5:2]

A bride-to-be is known for her modesty and shyness – but all of this is lost in adopting the culture of the non-Muslims. Their dressing and their fashion nurtures immodesty. Added to this, these sins are publicized and photographs are taken and uploaded on social media – for all and sundry to view the level of our degeneration.

The heart bleeds at this miscarriage of the Sunnah. … Nay, this abortion of the Sunnah. How will we meet our Beloved Nabi (Peace and Blessings of Allāh be upon him) on the Day of Judgment? 

How will we show our faces to the one whose entire life was sacrificed so that today we be the reciters of the Kalimah?

May Allah Ta’ala have mercy upon us since we stand to lose by adopting this culture. If we continue in this line and direction, we will lose the Pleasure of Allah Ta’ala and we will lose the great rewards for enlivening and practising the Sunnah. (example and advice of the last Prophet of Allah)

We also stand to lose the companionship of Rasulullah (šallallaahu ‘alayh wasallam) at the (thirst quenching) fountain of Kauthar on the Day of Judgment and even stand to lose the success of our marriages due to having sacrificed the beautiful, noble Sunnah by means of our emulation (mindless copying) of the Hollywood and Bollywood (sinful) culture.

If our allegiance is to Allah Ta’ala and His Rasul (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam), then there should be no delay in repentance and mending our ways and coming back to what is pure and beautiful – Islam and the Sunnah. 
In this… is the success of both worlds.

May Allah Ta’ala grant us the understanding, the concern and the Taufeeq of Aml, Aameen

by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh)

IRTIDAAD SPAWNED BY THE WEDDING OF SHIRK AND KUFR

JUMUAH BAYAAN BY SHEIKH JAMEEL ADAMS

All the praise is for Allah Alone. We praise Him, seek His assistance and beseech Him for His Forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allah from the evils of our own souls and from the evils of our actions. Whomsoever Allah Most High guides, there is none who can lead him astray, and whomsoever Allah Most High sends astray there is no one who can guide him. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah Alone, Who has no partner, and I testify that our Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam is the Slave and Messenger of Allah. May Allah bestow His choicest Salutations, Peace and Blessings on our Nabi Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi wasallam), his family and his companions.

“Oh you who believe fear Allah how He ought to be feared and do not die except in a state of submission to Allah as Muslims.

Oh people fear your Lord who created you from a single being and from him created his spouse and from the two of them brought forth men and women in abundance.

Fear Allah through Whom you ask your mutual rights and keep the family ties. Indeed Allah is ever watchful over you.

Oh you who believe fear Allah and speak a word that is true and just, Allah will rectify for you your deeds and forgive you your sins.

And whoever obeys Allah and His messenger has attained the ultimate success. 

Indeed the truest of speech is the speech of Allah and the best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi wasallam) and the worst of affairs are innovations in the Deen and every such innovation is a heresy, a Bid’ah and every Bid’ah is misguidance and every misguidance is in the fire. We ask that Allah Ta’ala save us all from the fire.  

O Muslims! It has recently been circulated in the news and the social networks some pictures and some information regarding   a ‘Nikaah’ that took place between a ‘Muslim’ woman and a Hindu man. Attending this Nikaah, being present in it and taking the stage was one of the most senior of the Mashaaikh of this city, or from the people who are considered to be from the most senior of the Mashaaikh of South Africa, the former president of the MJC Shaykh Ebrahim Gabriels. The daughter who got married, the Muslimah, is the daughter of the former premier of the Western Cape, Ebrahim Rasool. A Muslim woman was marrying a kaafir mushrik.

What is the ruling on this as many people have become confused due to the attendance of the Mashaaikh, due to seeing their Shaykh being present and their Shaykh taking the stage and participating in this activity. This is a very dangerous affair. An example is being set, a precedent is being set. When the ulama maintain silence and those in attendance are pleased and participate, what message is it giving to our youth? What message is it giving to our daughters and to our sisters? That you can go and marry the enemies of Allah, the enemies of Al-Islam. Not only from the kuffaar but from those kuffaar who hate Islam the most, from the Hindus, the idol worshippers. Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala has informed us that those who hate the Believers the most, are the Jews and the people of shirk. They hate the Believers the most because Islam fights shirk. Islam is the Deen of Tawhid. So, the mushrikoon – the people who worship idols and associate partners with Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala –  hate the believers the most along with the Yahood upon whom is Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’la’s Wrath.  

If nothing is said about this and people are led to believe that this is ok, SubhaanAllah, what will  Muslim sisters do? How much should we fear for our daughters when they see the likes of this? As Muslims who believe in the Book of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala, we say that this Nikaah is baatil. This Nikaah is baatil and the ulama are agreed that if the woman knows the ruling on this Nikaah and she still contracts it with a mushrik or a kaafir then she is a zaaniyah who is deserving of the Shar’i punishment. 

If she knows what is the ruling in Islam for women to marry kuffaar and she still marries a kaafir, she is an adulterous. (In fact she is a murtaddah – The Majlis) And if she does not know the ruling then she will be excused on account of her ignorance but it is Waajib to separate them without any formal separation like Talaaq or Fasakh because that Nikaah was baatil in the first place. There is no need for formal separation. (In a flagrant violation of the Shariah on an issue of this nature, the woman is not excused. She   has sufficient intelligence to understand the notoriety of ‘marrying’ a mushrik and participating in customs of flagrant shirk and  kufr.- The Majlis)

It is Waajib upon the Muslim community, the Wali of this woman, to separate her from this man without any formal process. (The Muslim community has no coercive power to enforce the Shariah. The Wali himself has become a murtad. Hence, then question of separating the woman from the zina and kufr relationship cannot be practically enforced in this country – The Majlis).

Shaykh-ul-Islam, Ibn Taymiyyah said the Muslims have consensus – the entire Ummah is in agreement, Subhaan Allah! – when the ulama use this term and they don’t say Ajma’ul Ulama, they say Ajma’ul Muslimoon, then this is a matter known to every Muslim. This is a matter known by necessity to all Muslims. It is common knowledge for us. The Muslimoon are agreed that the kaafir does not leave a Muslim as his heir. There is no inheritance between the two. It is not permitted for a disbelieving man to marry a believing woman. The Muslims are agreed upon this as stated by Shaykh-ul-Islam, Ibn Taymiyyah, in Fataawal Kubra. Why is this consensus found amongst the Muslims? Because Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala has made it clear in His Book, because Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala has stated it without any ambiguity in His Book. Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala has said to the believing men:

“You Believing men, do not marry a mushrik female – a polytheist, a pagan, an idol worshipper, one who makes shirk with Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala – do not marry the mushrikaat until they believe”.

Until they believe in Allah, and in His Nabi and in the Deen of Islam – do not marry them otherwise. 

“And a slave woman who is a believer is better than a mushrik free woman.” 

She is better than a polytheist who is free and who is wealthy and who has status and who has authority. A slave – a believing slave woman is better than her “…even if she appeals to you with her beauty (or with her status or with her wealth)”.

Then Allah said to the believing males, to the fathers, to the Auliya of the women, to their guardians in this Ummah, “…Do not give your daughters (or your sisters or those under your authority from the believing women) to the Mushrikeen”- to the polytheist. Do not give them in marriage to them “…until they believe” – until they believe in Allah and in His Deen and His Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) – until they become Muslims.

“And a believing slave (who has nothing and who is owned by someone and who is under someone’s authority) is better than a free mushrik even if he amazes you (even if he is the most beautiful mushrik, even if he has the wealthiest, hold the highest status and is from the highest family. A believing slave is better than him.”

Then Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala makes it clear to us believers why this great difference:

“Those people are calling to Hell Fire whilst Allah is calling to Paradise and to Forgiveness with His Permission.”

Those people – the Mushrikeen – are calling you to Hell Fire, and Allah is calling you to Jannah and to forgiveness.  

“And He makes clear His signs, He makes clear His verses to the people so that they may take heed.”

The ruling is clear in the Book of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala. The Muslims are agreed upon it, there is consensus upon it and Allah Ta’ala has made it so clear so that people can take heed, and people can reflect, and they can remember, they can recall it. So when the likes of these situations arise, we recall the Aayaat of Allah and we remember it and we take heed and we put it above everything else. And Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala said in Suratul Baqarah and Suratul Mumtahinah with regards to the believing women when they depart from the mushriks, whereas they were with them before and they were from them before, Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala says:

“O you who believe! When the believing women come to you (as immigrants), having made Hijra from the Mushriks because they believed, they’ve received the message and they come to the Muslims…” Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala says “…test them”, ascertain their Imaan, ascertain that they are believers in Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala and in His Deen, and that they have truly come with the purpose of Hijra. Then Allah says:

“Allah knows best with regards to their Imaan.”  

You must test them, Allah knows best. 

“And if you come to know that they are Mu’minaat (that they are believers) then don’t send them back to the disbelievers. They are not permissible for them as wives, and those disbelievers, they are not permissible for them as husbands”.

Clear is the Qur’aan, the Book of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala, which speaks the truth. SubhaanAllah, the ruling is clear. It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a non-muslim man, whether he is a Yahoodi or a Nasraani or any other kaafir, or any other disbeliever – Hindu or Zoroastrian, Majoosi or whatever he may be. If he is not a Muslim, it is not permitted for a Muslim woman to marry him. This is the ruling of the Book of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala. This is the ruling of Islam.

As for those who oppose it – as for those who are pleased with this kufr (they are murtaddeen). In the Book of Allah, kufr shown towards the Aayaat of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala that is, rejecting it, overlooking (and over-riding it), throwing behind our backs, and doing the opposite – it is kufr. Subhaan Allah! How many verses – (numerous Aayaat declare this attitude to be kufr).   In the same Suratul Mumtahina Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala says:

“Oh you who believe don’t take My enemies and your enemies as Auliya (as friends, as allies) showing to them affection and love whilst they have disbelieved in what has come to you of truth”.

How do you find it in yourself to take as an ally and to show love and affection and attachment to the one who disbelieves in what has come to you from Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala – who disbelieves in Allah, who disbelieves in His messenger, who disbelieves in His Book, in His Signs, in His Tawheed? How do you show love to such a person?   How do you take him as an ally, as a friend when Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala has prohibited you from doing so? 

This matter is very dangerous because the one who is pleased with this, the one who makes this permissible or who justifies it, is guilty of an act of kufr. If he makes it permissible saying that these people – the Hindus or whatever other mushrikoon – they are not kuffaar as you believe kuffaar, then he is a kaafir. 

Then we say to them, there is consensus of the ulama, of former times and contemporary, upon the principle of the Shari’a, and this is a principle with regards to At-Takfeer (Declaring one to be a kaafir), and this principle is that: Man shakka fee kufril kaafir…… (Whoever doubts in the kufr of a kaafir has committed kufr). 

Imaam Nawawi (Rahmatullah alayh) said in Raudhatut-Taalibeen: “Whoever does not declare a disbeliever (someone who practices a religion other than Islam) a kaafir, or he refrains from giving a ruling with regards to them, or he doubts with regards to their kufr, or he says that their way is also correct, he is a kaafir even if he professes Islam and claims to believe it.”

Whoever does not declare a person who follows a religion other than Islam as a disbeliever or he refrains from giving a judgment with regards to them, or he doubts with regards to the fact that they are disbelievers or he considers and declares their way correct, then that person is a kaafir even if he displays overtly Islam and claims to believe it. Imaam Nawawi says he is a kaafir. Likewise, Al Qaadhi Iyaadh al Maaliki said almost exactly the words of Imaam An-Nawawi.  

This is not something new, so that when the ulama, like Shaykh Bin baaz and Shaykh-ul-Islam al-Mujaddid and, others besides them from the Ulama of Islam,   say Mal lam Yukaffiril Kaafir Fa Huwa Kaafir, this is not something new. This is not something that they have innovated. This is the ruling of the Shari’ah. This is the ruling known to the ulama. The Hindus are kuffaar and Allah Ta’ala prohibits that the Muslim woman is sent to be with the kuffaar. And Allah says it is not halaal for the Muslim woman to be married to a kaafir or to a mushrik. Whoever says the opposite, then he disbelieves in the Book of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala. Whoever says it is permissible, then he has made halaal what Allah has made haraam regardless of whoever he may be, whether he is the Shaykh that was present or whether it is the father of the girl that permitted them or other Imaams who were present, or whom they consulted. If he made halaal for the Muslim woman to marry a mushrik Hindu man, then he has made halaal what Allah has made haraam and that is kufr. That is disbelief! That is disbelief! (its kufr and irtidaad).  

They always come up with excuses to justify their haraam acts. “When you see kufr in your presence and you don’t say anything and you don’t do anything and you don’t feel bad in your heart but you smile and you enjoy the food and you drink the drinks and you sing along with them, this is an indication that you are pleased with what is happening. And whoever is pleased with kufr, he has disbelieved. Whoever is pleased with disbelief, he has himself disbelieved.

SubhaanAllah, this affair is dangerous. We’ve always heard this happens amongst the Awaam (the general public) – amongst people who are ignorant. Wallaahi! We have heard this! Wallaahi! We’ve dealt with it. A Muslim woman is married to John. A Muslim woman is married to Craig, to Regan, whatever the case may be. And we have to go and give the rulings of Islam and separate them. But when, SubhaanAllah, the Mashaaikh, and the leaders of the Mashaaikh and the elders of the Mashaaikh and those who are perceived to be leaders, are part of this – Wallaahi we have nothing for them except the words of Rasulullah SallAllahu Alayhe Wasallam:   

“I only fear for my Ummah the misguiding leaders”.

The misguiding Imaams. SubhaanAllah, people look to them for guidance and they are taking people to the fire of Jahannam. They are taking people to the fire of Jahannam. 

Slaves of Allah! You must not doubt. You must not be weak. You must not make hesitate to proclaim the truth in a matter the Qur’aan and Sunnah have stated clearly. In a matter that Rasulullah (SallAllahu alayhi wasallam) has implemented and practiced – in a matter that the ulama of Islam and the Muslims have consensus, you must not be weak. What is the ruling on this (haram affair)? It is kufr! What is the ruling on this Nikaah? This Nikaah is baatil! This Nikaah is baatil! And if they knew and the woman knew what is the ruling of Islam, she is a zaaniyah, and if she didn’t know, then she is excused due to ignorance and the two of them must be separated. (Regarding this issue she cannot plead ignorance, hence she is not excused from the commission of kufr and irtidaad. –The Majlis) Her father must separate them, not give her to a mushrik, SubhaanAllah! (her father himself have become a murtad. He is proud of the Hindu marriage and the customs of the idolaters – The Majlis)  

Our daughters, Subhaan Allah!, the bondswomen and the slaves, the female slaves of Allah, the  female believers – we must protect them. We must be their guardians. The men are the guardians of women. How can you not look where you are putting your daughter? You have descended to such a low level as to give her to a Hindu? You don’t give her to a faasiq Muslim nor to a kaafir from Ahlul Kitaab – a Yahoodi or Nasraani – but you give her to the worst – to the mushrikoon, with the people of idolatry and shirk who ascribe partners unto Allah Tabaaraka Wa Ta’ala and worship idols besides Him. Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala! Where is your Islam? What do you believe regarding Islam? How do you believe in that Qur’aan wherein Allah Ta’ala prohibited this deed? You’ve thrown the Qur’aan behind your back because you think that you have position and status. SubhaanAllah!  

And those who flocked to participate, to be in the lime light for prestige and honour? Wallaahi that’s not honour, it’s a disgrace. That leader, that Shaykh who sits on the stage whilst this takes place and participates in it, Wallaahi he was not honoured by that gathering, he was disgraced by it. He was disgraced by it. He is not fit to lead the Muslims. He is not fit to lead the Muslims. (He is a murtad). How many people has he misled with this misguidance? How many people are going to say its ok because Shaykh Fulaan was there? How many people are going to do it because he was part of that? (Part of the haram shaitaaniyat, kufr and irtidaad.)

We ask that Allah protects us from these evil misguiding Imaams, callers to the doors of Jahannam. This is the reality, they are callers to the doors of Jahannam and Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi Wasallam) described them as such. We ask Allah to protect us, to protect our families and our children, to protect our daughters and our sons from these misguiding leaders, and that Allah establishes them firmly on His Book and the Sunnah of His Messenger (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam), and that Allah saves them from these fitan, from the trials and tribulations which are apparent and that which are hidden.  

Slaves of Allah! We fear for the Imaan of those people who participate in the likes of such misdeeds. We fear for the Imaan of those people who are pleased with it. We fear for the Imaan of those people who take as allies and as friends and protectors, the enemies of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala, who disbelieved in that which has come from Allah as truth. Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala  says: 

“You will not find people believing in Allah and the Last Day showing love, showing affection to those who oppose Allah and His Rasool, whether it be their fathers, or their sons, or their brothers, or their next of kin”.  

You will not find people who believe in Allah and the Last Day that they show love for those who oppose Allah and His Messenger. Shaykh-al-Allaama-al-Fawzaan (Hafidhallahu Wa Ta’ala) said that this means that if a person shows love and affection to the enemies of Allah and to the kuffaar and the Mushrikeen, does not have true Imaan! He does not have true Imaan! He does not have true faith! Because Allah says and Allah speaks the Haqq and Allah knows the creation and Allah knows the state of everyone better than he knows himself – and Allah says: 

“You will not find people who believe in Allah and the Last Day that they have love for those who oppose Allah and his Rasool even if it be his father, or his son or his brother or his next of kin”

Even if it is his entire family – he will not have love for them. Why! Because those are the people whom Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala in whose hearts Allah has embedded Imaan. He, Himself has aided them. Those people who have true Imaan and do not show love and affection to the kuffaar, Allah Ta’ala does not say don’t be good to them. If they are not enemies to you, if they do not fight you, if they do not counter your Deen (then be good, fair and just to them). Allah Ta’ala does not say don’t be just, don’t be fair to them. But Allah prohibits that you take them as Auliya. Allah prohibits that you show love to them. If you give a Muslim woman in marriage to a Mushrik, you are taking him as friend. Is that not taking them as your beloved? Whereas this is a mushrik who opposes Allah and His Rasool. You will not find this occurring from people who have true Imaan because people who have true Imaan and who love for the sake of Allah and hate for the sake of Allah, they are the ones in whose hearts Allah has stamped Imaan. So you cannot love someone who opposes Allah. How do you love someone who opposes and has enmity for the one that you are supposed to love the most – that you are suppose to love more than all creation? It is in fact a sign of deficient Imaan, that the Imaan is extremely weak.

We ask that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala guides and protects us, and that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala saves us from the misguiding Imaams, and that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala makes us from those who command virtue and prohibit evil, and change it with the hand or with the tongue or with the heart. We ask that Allah Ta’ala does not make us of those whose hearts are not stirred when he sees disbelief in Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala and enmity towards Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala. We ask that Allah saves our youth, the males and the females, and that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala grants those who are not married from them righteous pious wives and husbands. and that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala strengthens the community of the Ahlus-Sunnah, and strengthens the Ahlus Sunnah-wal-Jamaat with more of the community. We ask that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala makes us true rightly guided guides for mankind and that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala makes our hearts firm upon His Deen and turns our hearts towards his obedience. We ask that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala not to deviate our hearts after he has guided us and that he grants us mercy. Verily He is Al-Wahhaab. We ask Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala to grant us goodness in this dunya, and the goodness of the Aakhirat and to save us from the punishment of the Hellfire. Aameen!