Category Archives: Nikah/Marriage related Issues

WEDDINGS, WALIMAS AND SHOWERS

By Jamiatul Ulama Gauteng

There are many customs and trends which have their affiliation with the non-Muslim culture and lifestyle. 

Many Muslims, due to being afflicted with what appears to be a truly insecure and inferior complex, look towards and choose the customs and trends of the non-Muslims over that of the beautiful Sunnah. 

It seems as if the need is to secure a kind of acceptance in a non-Muslim society and just blend in with them – so that we are not recognized as Muslims.

(sadly) Bridal Showers and Baby Showers have become synonymous with the Muslim lifestyle as it is with the rest of the non-Muslim lifestyle.

Many may ask: What’s wrong with giving gifts, congratulating the bride-to-be or the new mother, or having a get together with friends?

There is nothing wrong with giving the bride or the new mother a gift, or congratulating the person. To give a gift and congratulate are from the teachings of Islam – and would draw rewards … but there are conditions to be met in even these noble deeds.

What is extremely wrong and objectionable is the background to these good deeds. They are not within the parameters of Shari’ah.

The picture of a typical bridal shower and baby shower is not typical with the Sunnah. 
It is typical of the non-Muslim way of life. 

By following suit, we fall into the sin of “Tashabbu bil Kuffaar” (emulating the disbelievers). It is aligning oneself with those who have rejected Allah Ta’ala, who live their lives in immorality and disobedience (to their Owner, Allah the Owner and Master of All the worlds).

Jews do not have baby showers prior to the birth of a child. Some do not buy any baby items or set up the nursery until the child is born.

The custom stems from the idea that drawing attention to a happy occasion draws the attention of evil spirits and the evil eye. They believe that a baby shower is an outright invitation to the evil eye to descend upon the unborn baby in vengeance for rubbing your happiness in others’ faces and “counting your chickens before they hatch.”

Nikah is a great Ibaadah. Pregnancy and the birth of a child also have their requisites in Islam. 

However, the west has commercialized all of these noble occasions, and made them into money-making events. The sacredness of these occasions is forgotten.

…Today, Nikah’s have taken on a distinct mould of a Hollywood or Bollywood style wedding – where the bride is dressed to look like a Christian bride or a Bollywood actress – with no sign of Islam on her; and the groom is dressed in a suit and tie, looking like a typical (non Muslim) Christian groom.

Adding insult to injury is the extravagance and open sin at the time of the wedding and Walimah. One’s mind moves in the direction of the millions and millions who are suffering famine and starvation, who have no home, no water, no food, no clothing – but the Muslim ignores all that suffering just for some fleeting attention and praise???

All those hundreds of thousands of Rands wasted on draping a hall, on dressing the chairs, on wine glasses, on musicians, photography, on wedding cards that are thrown away, etc. is money which could have been the means of alleviating the plight of so many suffering people.

One brother handed me an elaborate invitation card for his daughter’s wedding. I enquired as to the cost of the wedding card, and was told that each card cost R50. Advising him, I told him that almost all people throw away wedding cards. People generally dispose of them. So he should regard that as people throwing away hundreds of his R50 notes. Would he throw R50 notes into a bin? No. 

However, the throwing away of those cards is equal to throwing away R50 notes. That same money could have been used in making the Aakhirah. (the Hereafter)

Even those who are known to be religious will waste thousands on halls, on décor, etc. sacrificing the pleasure of Allah Ta’ala and Rasulullah (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam). 

Those who were meant to set the noble example of the Sunnah, who we expect are living the Sunnah – knowingly choose to forsake the Sunnah. 

Simplicity, which is part of Imaan (true belief), is a rare sight in these times.

Hazrat ‘Ayesha (radhiyallahu ‘anha) related that Nabi (šallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said: 
‘Verily, the most blessed Nikah (wedding) is that which involves the least difficulty (expenditure).’

We have a perfect Sunnah – a Perfect Way of Life in the life of our Nabi (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and in the lives of his Companions, men and women.
We have what is superior to all other cultures yet we consider everything else. It shows great weakness if we give preference to the culture of the Christians, Jews and Idol worshippers over the noble Sunnah of Rasulullah (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam).

We are exchanging (flawless) diamonds for (worthless) stones… and what an unprofitable exchange this is! What a great loss!

Nabi (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: 
“Whoever emulates (copy or apes) a nation is from amongst them.”

In another Hadith, it is stated: “A person is with whom he loves.”

Nabi (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) also said that we will be raised on the Day of Reckoning with those whom we imitate in this worldly life. (May Allah Ta’ala save us from such disgrace and humiliation, Aameen)

Emulating the non-Muslim culture is one downfall but there are many more that are found in the Bridal and Baby Showers.

The non-Muslims have coined a novel concept of begging – especially amongst the upper-class. It seems as if some, from amongst the wealthy, have developed an art to begging. They even have a name for it. In the name of Bridal Showers, Baby Showers, Registries, people gracefully and politely extend their hands, and they ask and take from others.

The bride-to-be chooses her gifts from exclusive stores that offer a “registry” or she unashamedly hands out a list of those items she wants gifted to her. In the process, she places pressure and financial difficulty and sometimes a great burden on others – to purchase those gifts that she has chosen.

At the get-together, these gifts and other gifts are presented to the bride-to-be, who opens them and shows them to all present – and each person can assess the kind of money that was spent on the gift given. 

Let us now consider the various wrongs in this act:

..a person is forced to purchase gifts that the bride has chosen – which may be beyond her budget in spending.

..a person who gives something simple or inexpensive will feel ashamed and embarrassed, considering the manner in which gifts are being received and shown to others.

The Hadith encourages giving gifts because giving gifts creates Muhabbah (love). 

If Muhabbah is not created then this proves that either the giver or receiver in insincere.

..sometimes, people give with intentions other than expressing their Muhabbah. However, there are many who request or are desirous of receiving and there is a kind of greed from the receiving side. This request or expectation (ishraaf) reveals insincerity from the one who is receiving.

A gift must be given happily and willingly – and should be received graciously and thankfully. This is the Sunnah. (practice & teachings of Nabi Moehammad peace and blessings be upon him)

However, when we ask of people, as in the case of registries, etc. – people will give, but they give unhappily and unwillingly. …and if some gift is given, which is not to our liking, then we receive it without any appreciation and thanks. This is our lamentable condition.

Another aspect that has also been brought to attention is the immorality and shamelessness at such gatherings – with indecent talk, shameless dressing by Muslim women, inappropriate games, music, dancing and such filthy entertainment, that we would not want to bring on to our tongues. It is not permissible for a person to attend such gatherings. The Shari’ah instructs us:

‘IT IS NOT PERMISSIBLE TO BE PRESENT IN A GATHERING WHERE ALLAH TA’ALA IS BEING DISOBEYED.’

Moreover, a person’s presence is aiding in promoting and glorifying what is not permissible. We are told not to assist each other in sin; rather to assist in what is righteous:

“Help each other in righteousness and piety, and do not help each other in sin and aggression.”
[Al Quran Surah Al-Maa’idah 5:2]

A bride-to-be is known for her modesty and shyness – but all of this is lost in adopting the culture of the non-Muslims. Their dressing and their fashion nurtures immodesty. Added to this, these sins are publicized and photographs are taken and uploaded on social media – for all and sundry to view the level of our degeneration.

The heart bleeds at this miscarriage of the Sunnah. … Nay, this abortion of the Sunnah. How will we meet our Beloved Nabi (Peace and Blessings of Allāh be upon him) on the Day of Judgment? 

How will we show our faces to the one whose entire life was sacrificed so that today we be the reciters of the Kalimah?

May Allah Ta’ala have mercy upon us since we stand to lose by adopting this culture. If we continue in this line and direction, we will lose the Pleasure of Allah Ta’ala and we will lose the great rewards for enlivening and practising the Sunnah. (example and advice of the last Prophet of Allah)

We also stand to lose the companionship of Rasulullah (šallallaahu ‘alayh wasallam) at the (thirst quenching) fountain of Kauthar on the Day of Judgment and even stand to lose the success of our marriages due to having sacrificed the beautiful, noble Sunnah by means of our emulation (mindless copying) of the Hollywood and Bollywood (sinful) culture.

If our allegiance is to Allah Ta’ala and His Rasul (šallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam), then there should be no delay in repentance and mending our ways and coming back to what is pure and beautiful – Islam and the Sunnah. 
In this… is the success of both worlds.

May Allah Ta’ala grant us the understanding, the concern and the Taufeeq of Aml, Aameen

by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh)

IRTIDAAD SPAWNED BY THE WEDDING OF SHIRK AND KUFR

JUMUAH BAYAAN BY SHEIKH JAMEEL ADAMS

All the praise is for Allah Alone. We praise Him, seek His assistance and beseech Him for His Forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allah from the evils of our own souls and from the evils of our actions. Whomsoever Allah Most High guides, there is none who can lead him astray, and whomsoever Allah Most High sends astray there is no one who can guide him. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah Alone, Who has no partner, and I testify that our Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam is the Slave and Messenger of Allah. May Allah bestow His choicest Salutations, Peace and Blessings on our Nabi Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi wasallam), his family and his companions.

“Oh you who believe fear Allah how He ought to be feared and do not die except in a state of submission to Allah as Muslims.

Oh people fear your Lord who created you from a single being and from him created his spouse and from the two of them brought forth men and women in abundance.

Fear Allah through Whom you ask your mutual rights and keep the family ties. Indeed Allah is ever watchful over you.

Oh you who believe fear Allah and speak a word that is true and just, Allah will rectify for you your deeds and forgive you your sins.

And whoever obeys Allah and His messenger has attained the ultimate success. 

Indeed the truest of speech is the speech of Allah and the best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi wasallam) and the worst of affairs are innovations in the Deen and every such innovation is a heresy, a Bid’ah and every Bid’ah is misguidance and every misguidance is in the fire. We ask that Allah Ta’ala save us all from the fire.  

O Muslims! It has recently been circulated in the news and the social networks some pictures and some information regarding   a ‘Nikaah’ that took place between a ‘Muslim’ woman and a Hindu man. Attending this Nikaah, being present in it and taking the stage was one of the most senior of the Mashaaikh of this city, or from the people who are considered to be from the most senior of the Mashaaikh of South Africa, the former president of the MJC Shaykh Ebrahim Gabriels. The daughter who got married, the Muslimah, is the daughter of the former premier of the Western Cape, Ebrahim Rasool. A Muslim woman was marrying a kaafir mushrik.

What is the ruling on this as many people have become confused due to the attendance of the Mashaaikh, due to seeing their Shaykh being present and their Shaykh taking the stage and participating in this activity. This is a very dangerous affair. An example is being set, a precedent is being set. When the ulama maintain silence and those in attendance are pleased and participate, what message is it giving to our youth? What message is it giving to our daughters and to our sisters? That you can go and marry the enemies of Allah, the enemies of Al-Islam. Not only from the kuffaar but from those kuffaar who hate Islam the most, from the Hindus, the idol worshippers. Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala has informed us that those who hate the Believers the most, are the Jews and the people of shirk. They hate the Believers the most because Islam fights shirk. Islam is the Deen of Tawhid. So, the mushrikoon – the people who worship idols and associate partners with Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala –  hate the believers the most along with the Yahood upon whom is Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’la’s Wrath.  

If nothing is said about this and people are led to believe that this is ok, SubhaanAllah, what will  Muslim sisters do? How much should we fear for our daughters when they see the likes of this? As Muslims who believe in the Book of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala, we say that this Nikaah is baatil. This Nikaah is baatil and the ulama are agreed that if the woman knows the ruling on this Nikaah and she still contracts it with a mushrik or a kaafir then she is a zaaniyah who is deserving of the Shar’i punishment. 

If she knows what is the ruling in Islam for women to marry kuffaar and she still marries a kaafir, she is an adulterous. (In fact she is a murtaddah – The Majlis) And if she does not know the ruling then she will be excused on account of her ignorance but it is Waajib to separate them without any formal separation like Talaaq or Fasakh because that Nikaah was baatil in the first place. There is no need for formal separation. (In a flagrant violation of the Shariah on an issue of this nature, the woman is not excused. She   has sufficient intelligence to understand the notoriety of ‘marrying’ a mushrik and participating in customs of flagrant shirk and  kufr.- The Majlis)

It is Waajib upon the Muslim community, the Wali of this woman, to separate her from this man without any formal process. (The Muslim community has no coercive power to enforce the Shariah. The Wali himself has become a murtad. Hence, then question of separating the woman from the zina and kufr relationship cannot be practically enforced in this country – The Majlis).

Shaykh-ul-Islam, Ibn Taymiyyah said the Muslims have consensus – the entire Ummah is in agreement, Subhaan Allah! – when the ulama use this term and they don’t say Ajma’ul Ulama, they say Ajma’ul Muslimoon, then this is a matter known to every Muslim. This is a matter known by necessity to all Muslims. It is common knowledge for us. The Muslimoon are agreed that the kaafir does not leave a Muslim as his heir. There is no inheritance between the two. It is not permitted for a disbelieving man to marry a believing woman. The Muslims are agreed upon this as stated by Shaykh-ul-Islam, Ibn Taymiyyah, in Fataawal Kubra. Why is this consensus found amongst the Muslims? Because Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala has made it clear in His Book, because Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala has stated it without any ambiguity in His Book. Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala has said to the believing men:

“You Believing men, do not marry a mushrik female – a polytheist, a pagan, an idol worshipper, one who makes shirk with Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala – do not marry the mushrikaat until they believe”.

Until they believe in Allah, and in His Nabi and in the Deen of Islam – do not marry them otherwise. 

“And a slave woman who is a believer is better than a mushrik free woman.” 

She is better than a polytheist who is free and who is wealthy and who has status and who has authority. A slave – a believing slave woman is better than her “…even if she appeals to you with her beauty (or with her status or with her wealth)”.

Then Allah said to the believing males, to the fathers, to the Auliya of the women, to their guardians in this Ummah, “…Do not give your daughters (or your sisters or those under your authority from the believing women) to the Mushrikeen”- to the polytheist. Do not give them in marriage to them “…until they believe” – until they believe in Allah and in His Deen and His Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) – until they become Muslims.

“And a believing slave (who has nothing and who is owned by someone and who is under someone’s authority) is better than a free mushrik even if he amazes you (even if he is the most beautiful mushrik, even if he has the wealthiest, hold the highest status and is from the highest family. A believing slave is better than him.”

Then Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala makes it clear to us believers why this great difference:

“Those people are calling to Hell Fire whilst Allah is calling to Paradise and to Forgiveness with His Permission.”

Those people – the Mushrikeen – are calling you to Hell Fire, and Allah is calling you to Jannah and to forgiveness.  

“And He makes clear His signs, He makes clear His verses to the people so that they may take heed.”

The ruling is clear in the Book of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala. The Muslims are agreed upon it, there is consensus upon it and Allah Ta’ala has made it so clear so that people can take heed, and people can reflect, and they can remember, they can recall it. So when the likes of these situations arise, we recall the Aayaat of Allah and we remember it and we take heed and we put it above everything else. And Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala said in Suratul Baqarah and Suratul Mumtahinah with regards to the believing women when they depart from the mushriks, whereas they were with them before and they were from them before, Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala says:

“O you who believe! When the believing women come to you (as immigrants), having made Hijra from the Mushriks because they believed, they’ve received the message and they come to the Muslims…” Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala says “…test them”, ascertain their Imaan, ascertain that they are believers in Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala and in His Deen, and that they have truly come with the purpose of Hijra. Then Allah says:

“Allah knows best with regards to their Imaan.”  

You must test them, Allah knows best. 

“And if you come to know that they are Mu’minaat (that they are believers) then don’t send them back to the disbelievers. They are not permissible for them as wives, and those disbelievers, they are not permissible for them as husbands”.

Clear is the Qur’aan, the Book of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala, which speaks the truth. SubhaanAllah, the ruling is clear. It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a non-muslim man, whether he is a Yahoodi or a Nasraani or any other kaafir, or any other disbeliever – Hindu or Zoroastrian, Majoosi or whatever he may be. If he is not a Muslim, it is not permitted for a Muslim woman to marry him. This is the ruling of the Book of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala. This is the ruling of Islam.

As for those who oppose it – as for those who are pleased with this kufr (they are murtaddeen). In the Book of Allah, kufr shown towards the Aayaat of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala that is, rejecting it, overlooking (and over-riding it), throwing behind our backs, and doing the opposite – it is kufr. Subhaan Allah! How many verses – (numerous Aayaat declare this attitude to be kufr).   In the same Suratul Mumtahina Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala says:

“Oh you who believe don’t take My enemies and your enemies as Auliya (as friends, as allies) showing to them affection and love whilst they have disbelieved in what has come to you of truth”.

How do you find it in yourself to take as an ally and to show love and affection and attachment to the one who disbelieves in what has come to you from Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala – who disbelieves in Allah, who disbelieves in His messenger, who disbelieves in His Book, in His Signs, in His Tawheed? How do you show love to such a person?   How do you take him as an ally, as a friend when Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala has prohibited you from doing so? 

This matter is very dangerous because the one who is pleased with this, the one who makes this permissible or who justifies it, is guilty of an act of kufr. If he makes it permissible saying that these people – the Hindus or whatever other mushrikoon – they are not kuffaar as you believe kuffaar, then he is a kaafir. 

Then we say to them, there is consensus of the ulama, of former times and contemporary, upon the principle of the Shari’a, and this is a principle with regards to At-Takfeer (Declaring one to be a kaafir), and this principle is that: Man shakka fee kufril kaafir…… (Whoever doubts in the kufr of a kaafir has committed kufr). 

Imaam Nawawi (Rahmatullah alayh) said in Raudhatut-Taalibeen: “Whoever does not declare a disbeliever (someone who practices a religion other than Islam) a kaafir, or he refrains from giving a ruling with regards to them, or he doubts with regards to their kufr, or he says that their way is also correct, he is a kaafir even if he professes Islam and claims to believe it.”

Whoever does not declare a person who follows a religion other than Islam as a disbeliever or he refrains from giving a judgment with regards to them, or he doubts with regards to the fact that they are disbelievers or he considers and declares their way correct, then that person is a kaafir even if he displays overtly Islam and claims to believe it. Imaam Nawawi says he is a kaafir. Likewise, Al Qaadhi Iyaadh al Maaliki said almost exactly the words of Imaam An-Nawawi.  

This is not something new, so that when the ulama, like Shaykh Bin baaz and Shaykh-ul-Islam al-Mujaddid and, others besides them from the Ulama of Islam,   say Mal lam Yukaffiril Kaafir Fa Huwa Kaafir, this is not something new. This is not something that they have innovated. This is the ruling of the Shari’ah. This is the ruling known to the ulama. The Hindus are kuffaar and Allah Ta’ala prohibits that the Muslim woman is sent to be with the kuffaar. And Allah says it is not halaal for the Muslim woman to be married to a kaafir or to a mushrik. Whoever says the opposite, then he disbelieves in the Book of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala. Whoever says it is permissible, then he has made halaal what Allah has made haraam regardless of whoever he may be, whether he is the Shaykh that was present or whether it is the father of the girl that permitted them or other Imaams who were present, or whom they consulted. If he made halaal for the Muslim woman to marry a mushrik Hindu man, then he has made halaal what Allah has made haraam and that is kufr. That is disbelief! That is disbelief! (its kufr and irtidaad).  

They always come up with excuses to justify their haraam acts. “When you see kufr in your presence and you don’t say anything and you don’t do anything and you don’t feel bad in your heart but you smile and you enjoy the food and you drink the drinks and you sing along with them, this is an indication that you are pleased with what is happening. And whoever is pleased with kufr, he has disbelieved. Whoever is pleased with disbelief, he has himself disbelieved.

SubhaanAllah, this affair is dangerous. We’ve always heard this happens amongst the Awaam (the general public) – amongst people who are ignorant. Wallaahi! We have heard this! Wallaahi! We’ve dealt with it. A Muslim woman is married to John. A Muslim woman is married to Craig, to Regan, whatever the case may be. And we have to go and give the rulings of Islam and separate them. But when, SubhaanAllah, the Mashaaikh, and the leaders of the Mashaaikh and the elders of the Mashaaikh and those who are perceived to be leaders, are part of this – Wallaahi we have nothing for them except the words of Rasulullah SallAllahu Alayhe Wasallam:   

“I only fear for my Ummah the misguiding leaders”.

The misguiding Imaams. SubhaanAllah, people look to them for guidance and they are taking people to the fire of Jahannam. They are taking people to the fire of Jahannam. 

Slaves of Allah! You must not doubt. You must not be weak. You must not make hesitate to proclaim the truth in a matter the Qur’aan and Sunnah have stated clearly. In a matter that Rasulullah (SallAllahu alayhi wasallam) has implemented and practiced – in a matter that the ulama of Islam and the Muslims have consensus, you must not be weak. What is the ruling on this (haram affair)? It is kufr! What is the ruling on this Nikaah? This Nikaah is baatil! This Nikaah is baatil! And if they knew and the woman knew what is the ruling of Islam, she is a zaaniyah, and if she didn’t know, then she is excused due to ignorance and the two of them must be separated. (Regarding this issue she cannot plead ignorance, hence she is not excused from the commission of kufr and irtidaad. –The Majlis) Her father must separate them, not give her to a mushrik, SubhaanAllah! (her father himself have become a murtad. He is proud of the Hindu marriage and the customs of the idolaters – The Majlis)  

Our daughters, Subhaan Allah!, the bondswomen and the slaves, the female slaves of Allah, the  female believers – we must protect them. We must be their guardians. The men are the guardians of women. How can you not look where you are putting your daughter? You have descended to such a low level as to give her to a Hindu? You don’t give her to a faasiq Muslim nor to a kaafir from Ahlul Kitaab – a Yahoodi or Nasraani – but you give her to the worst – to the mushrikoon, with the people of idolatry and shirk who ascribe partners unto Allah Tabaaraka Wa Ta’ala and worship idols besides Him. Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala! Where is your Islam? What do you believe regarding Islam? How do you believe in that Qur’aan wherein Allah Ta’ala prohibited this deed? You’ve thrown the Qur’aan behind your back because you think that you have position and status. SubhaanAllah!  

And those who flocked to participate, to be in the lime light for prestige and honour? Wallaahi that’s not honour, it’s a disgrace. That leader, that Shaykh who sits on the stage whilst this takes place and participates in it, Wallaahi he was not honoured by that gathering, he was disgraced by it. He was disgraced by it. He is not fit to lead the Muslims. He is not fit to lead the Muslims. (He is a murtad). How many people has he misled with this misguidance? How many people are going to say its ok because Shaykh Fulaan was there? How many people are going to do it because he was part of that? (Part of the haram shaitaaniyat, kufr and irtidaad.)

We ask that Allah protects us from these evil misguiding Imaams, callers to the doors of Jahannam. This is the reality, they are callers to the doors of Jahannam and Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi Wasallam) described them as such. We ask Allah to protect us, to protect our families and our children, to protect our daughters and our sons from these misguiding leaders, and that Allah establishes them firmly on His Book and the Sunnah of His Messenger (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam), and that Allah saves them from these fitan, from the trials and tribulations which are apparent and that which are hidden.  

Slaves of Allah! We fear for the Imaan of those people who participate in the likes of such misdeeds. We fear for the Imaan of those people who are pleased with it. We fear for the Imaan of those people who take as allies and as friends and protectors, the enemies of Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala, who disbelieved in that which has come from Allah as truth. Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala  says: 

“You will not find people believing in Allah and the Last Day showing love, showing affection to those who oppose Allah and His Rasool, whether it be their fathers, or their sons, or their brothers, or their next of kin”.  

You will not find people who believe in Allah and the Last Day that they show love for those who oppose Allah and His Messenger. Shaykh-al-Allaama-al-Fawzaan (Hafidhallahu Wa Ta’ala) said that this means that if a person shows love and affection to the enemies of Allah and to the kuffaar and the Mushrikeen, does not have true Imaan! He does not have true Imaan! He does not have true faith! Because Allah says and Allah speaks the Haqq and Allah knows the creation and Allah knows the state of everyone better than he knows himself – and Allah says: 

“You will not find people who believe in Allah and the Last Day that they have love for those who oppose Allah and his Rasool even if it be his father, or his son or his brother or his next of kin”

Even if it is his entire family – he will not have love for them. Why! Because those are the people whom Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala in whose hearts Allah has embedded Imaan. He, Himself has aided them. Those people who have true Imaan and do not show love and affection to the kuffaar, Allah Ta’ala does not say don’t be good to them. If they are not enemies to you, if they do not fight you, if they do not counter your Deen (then be good, fair and just to them). Allah Ta’ala does not say don’t be just, don’t be fair to them. But Allah prohibits that you take them as Auliya. Allah prohibits that you show love to them. If you give a Muslim woman in marriage to a Mushrik, you are taking him as friend. Is that not taking them as your beloved? Whereas this is a mushrik who opposes Allah and His Rasool. You will not find this occurring from people who have true Imaan because people who have true Imaan and who love for the sake of Allah and hate for the sake of Allah, they are the ones in whose hearts Allah has stamped Imaan. So you cannot love someone who opposes Allah. How do you love someone who opposes and has enmity for the one that you are supposed to love the most – that you are suppose to love more than all creation? It is in fact a sign of deficient Imaan, that the Imaan is extremely weak.

We ask that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala guides and protects us, and that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala saves us from the misguiding Imaams, and that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala makes us from those who command virtue and prohibit evil, and change it with the hand or with the tongue or with the heart. We ask that Allah Ta’ala does not make us of those whose hearts are not stirred when he sees disbelief in Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala and enmity towards Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala. We ask that Allah saves our youth, the males and the females, and that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala grants those who are not married from them righteous pious wives and husbands. and that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala strengthens the community of the Ahlus-Sunnah, and strengthens the Ahlus Sunnah-wal-Jamaat with more of the community. We ask that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala makes us true rightly guided guides for mankind and that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala makes our hearts firm upon His Deen and turns our hearts towards his obedience. We ask that Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala not to deviate our hearts after he has guided us and that he grants us mercy. Verily He is Al-Wahhaab. We ask Allah Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala to grant us goodness in this dunya, and the goodness of the Aakhirat and to save us from the punishment of the Hellfire. Aameen!

Couples Love

Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said:

“The noblest of you are those who are the noblest to their families”

“Verily, among the most perfect Believers in Imaan, are those who are best in character and kindest to their wives.”

Even lifting a morsel of food to the mouth of the wife has been given the significance of ‘ibaadat (worship). It is an act of love by which the husband derives thawaab (reward in the Hereafter).

It was part of the Uswah Hasanah (Noble and beautiful Character) of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) to engage in light-hearted talk with his wives. Hadhrat Abu Hurairah (radhiallahu anhu) said:

“Allah loves a man who caresses his wife. Both of them are awarded thawaab because of this loving attitude and their rizq (worldly provision and earning) is increased.”

A man is rewarded for even a drink of water he presents to his wife. According to Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam)-the rahmat (mercy) of Allah Ta’ala cascades on a couple when the husband glances at his wife with love and pleasure and she returns his glance with love and pleasure.

When a husband clasps the hand of his wife with love their sins fall from the gaps between their clasped fingers. Even mutual love between husband and wives serves as a kaffarah ‘(expiation) for sins. Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said:

“When a man enters his home cheerfully, Allah creates, as a result of his happy attitude, an angel who engages in istighfar (prayers of forgiveness) on behalf of the man until the Day of Qiyaamah.”

The holy bond of true Muhabbat (love) which a husband is obliged to foster with his wife does not permit a pious husband to howl and scowl at his wife. A husband’s superiority and excellence preclude such depraved attitudes. His attitude and behaviour should be calculated to engender pleasantness in the home. Pleasantness invites the mercy of Allah Ta’ala.

Rasulullah (sallallahu alayli wasallam) said that when a loving husband sets off from the home in the service of his wife and children, he is blessed with a rank of spiritual elevation for every step he takes. On accomplishing the service, his sins are forgiven. Among the acts of thawaab and special significance to be rendered by the husband on the Day of Ashura (10th Muharram), is to spend lavishly on his family. Lavishly should not be understood to mean wasteful expenditure. Within the husband’s means he should spend on them in greater measure on the Day of Ashura.

It is the husband’s duty to sustain the holy bond of family love. The bond should not be disrupted by him showing impatience, annoyance and anger whenever his wife acts childishly, stupidly and with indiscretion. His heart must be big enough to absorb such pettiness exhibited by his wile. After all A man can acquit himself of the Shar’i obligation and

Along with the responsibility of his family (wife and children) he has to tend to his parents as well. It is therefore unjust, cruel and haraam for a wife to expect and demand that her husband ignores, neglects and abandons his parents.

Husbands should always strike the perfect balance in the observation of the rights of their families and their parents. Execution of the rights of the one should not lead to the violation of the rights of the other.

Allah Ta’ala has awarded him a higher rank, a higher intelligence and greater restraint and willpower than the woman who has been created naaqisul aql (imperfect in intelligence).

Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam)Said:

`The love created for lovers (husbands and wives) by the likes of Nikah has not been seen.”

In Islam, true and enduring love comes after marriage. Such love is holy and blessed by Allah Ta’ala. It is a love sanctioned by Allah Ta’ala. It is a love which spiritually improves the condition of the husband and wife, hence Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said:

“Nikah is half of Imaan.’

The husband should cherish and treasure the love which is created by the Nikah. This holy love is sufficient to overcome the mutual differences of husband and wife. But it is only a man of piety a man who possesses understanding of the Sunnah — who will subdue his emotions and honour the demands of the holy love produced by the Nikah bond by overlooking the slight incompatibilities resulting from the differences in the temperament and disposition of the husband and wife. For the sake of sustaining the love which is mentioned in the aforementioned Hadith, the pious husband will constantly overlook and forgive the little and ineffectual outbursts of his wife. His patience secures spiritual ranks for him and his sins are forgiven.

Among the physical benefits of the true love between husband and wife is increase in the strength of the eyesight. Citing a Hadith of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam), Allamah Sakhawi (rahmatullah alayli) says that a glance cast at the face of the wife is beneficial for the eyesight.

Only a husband with a good Islamic moral character will be able to offer the best love to his wife. The love which a pious husband can show to his wife by virtue of his excellent moral character can never be acquired by wealth,. physical comfort, luxury and worldly ranks. Such holy love cannot be gained and sustained by only discharging the bare minimum legal rights of the wife. The husband will have to provide more than just rights. He will have to make sacrifices and in particular restrain his temper when his wife angers him with her indiscreet and sharp remarks. The Auliya have said that a husband who adopts sabr (patience) when he is confronted by the intransigence of his wife attains the rank of a ghazi or a mujahid who returns victorious from the battlefield This is in line with the following Ahadith of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam):

“The true mujahid is he who wages jihad against his nafs.”

“A powerful man is not one who overpowers another in physical combat. Verily; a powerful man is one who controls his nafs at the time of anger.”

…and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best

The Sanctity of Nikah

By Mujlisul Ulama

Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam) said:

“Nikah is half of Imaan.”  

Numerous Ahadith narrations testify to the sanctity of the Nikah (marriage) bond. The above is one such hadith from which the sanctity and importance of Nikah are abundantly clear. As a result of the holy culture of Islam, Nikah has always been regarded and treated with due respect and reverence by Muslims. Unlike liberal and materialistic cultures, Islam emphasises the strong relationship between Nikah and Taqwa (piety and divine fear – the fear which engenders obedience of the commands of Allah Ta’ala.) In fact, Islam teaches that Nikah is the factor which vastly improves the degree and quality of taqwa.

The Nikah bond envisages the establishment of a home of piety – a home in which moral excellence, spiritual loftiness and humanity will achieve a high degree of perfection. While this was the blessed condition of the Ummah in its early days, it has to be observed that the gradual adoption by Muslims of the ways of alien cultures has seriously eroded the transcendental quality and value of the Nikah bond.

Divorce which was an extremely rare occurrence in Muslim society, has now become an incremental practice. The greater degree of Muslim abandonment of Muslim culture – the Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) – the higher the incidence of divorce in the Muslim community. Divorce, separation, futile disputes, unnecessary arguments, lack of parental control, delinquency, failure to fulfil marital rights and obligations, infidelity, misery and heartache have gripped numerous Muslim families in these days of modernity, liberalism and abandonment of the Sunnah.

For these evil consequences of the libertine Muslim culture to find their way into Muslim homes, there is no need for surprise. Such baneful effects are the natural consequences of the elimination of the sanctity which once reigned supreme in the Muslim home. It was not possible for Muslims to retain their healthy and holy family – structure with their assimilation by the liberal western culture which in practice shows scant regard for the bond of marriage as a union of piety and holiness.

The evils which have smitten western society and annihilated its soul are now at work in the Ummah and to a large extent have made calamitous inroads in society. It is imperative for Muslims to understand the valuable and vital role which Nikah plays in the development and progress of Muslim society. The efficacy of the Nikah in regard to the achievement of happiness, love and piety is dependent on giving practical expression to the advices, and admonitions of the Sunnah. The marriage will be successful and happy only if it is conducted along the lines chalked out by Islam. Muslims should therefore introduce the ways of Islam into their homes so that the Nikah bond can exercise its impact and effects to bring into greater realization the perfection of Imaan as stated in the Hadith: “Nikah is half of Imaan.”   

EVIL WEDDINGS AND ALLAH’S PUNISHMENT

By Mujlisul Ulama

“And when We decide to destroy a people then We command its affluent o­nes. They then transgress (beyond all limits). The Decree (of Allah’s Athaab) then becomes confirmed o­n them. We then utterly destroy them.” (Qur’aan-e-Kareem)

A sign of the impending fate of destruction of a community is the leeway and latitude allowed to them by Allah Ta’ala to happily perpetrate their acts of transgression. When Allah Ta’ala has finally decided to eliminate a community with His Punishment, he snatches away all taufeeq of goodness from its members. They then embark o­n a process of reckless haraam and transgression. The decree then arrives. Suddenly and swiftly it overwhelms the transgressors. The past history and the recent history of mankind bear ample testimony to this uniform Sunnat of Allah Ta’ala, viz., His sudden and swift punishment for the transgressors, the ringleaders of whom are almost always the affluent, the wealthy who think that they are free to do whatever they wish with the wealth Allah Ta’ala has bestowed to them.

Among the acts of transgression which have to be particularly singled out, are the haraam wedding functions and the accompaniment of un-Islamic customs. These functions and the haraam activities of which they comprise are too well-known to require any elucidation. The kufr, immodest acts of intermingling of sexes, hiring of halls, displaying in exhibitions of zina, the bride, music, photography, videoing the haraam process of the haraam wedding, decorating vehicles with hooters blaring just like the kuffaar, etc., are among the evil and satanic ingredients of these shaitaani wedding functions.

Huge sums of money, usually thousands and sometimes tens of thousands, are satanically squandered and thrown down the drain into Jahannum simply to provide some egoistical pleasure to the ignorant culprits who have organized these affairs. That these people are the brothers of the shaitaan, there is no doubt in it, because the Qur’aan Majeed places the seal of satanism o­n them:

“Do not spend extravagantly. Verily, the wasters are the brothers of the devils.”

These people while claiming to be Muslims, have absolutely no understanding of the meaning or of the demands of Imaan. Innumerable Muslims, hundreds of thousands, in the different parts of the world are languishing in dire straits of poverty, squalor and starvation, homeless and without clothes, they have been and are being brutalized by kuffaar, yet we find Muslims squandering huge amounts in haraam and immoral wedding functions. Never does it occurs to them to rather contribute the wasted money for aiding the downtrodden Ummah. Their hearts have become clogged and hardened with all the paraphernalia of kufr, hence they display all attributes of kufr o­n wedding occasions to gain some miserable pleasure for their nafs. They seek to project an image of greatness for themselves by digging their own hell-graves with their acts of transgression. While they labour under the extremely false notion of impressing others with their extravagance and their daughter put o­n display for the evil eyes of all and sundry, they succeed in o­nly deceiving themselves.

The very punishment which actually settles over the married couple which went through the spiritual torture of haraam wedding functions is the miserable relationship between husband and wife. Such marriages are overshadowed by unhappiness and misery. Many lead to divorce. When misery bogs down the marriage, they wonder what went wrong.

A large part of the blame for this rotten state of affairs has to be hoisted o­nto the shoulders of condescending Ulama who curry the favour of the rich by submitting to the haraam wishes of such people. These Ulama participate in the evil wedding functions and with their presence at such nikahs, such walimahs and such functions they endeavour to confer respectability, acceptability and legality to the satanic wedding functions and customs . In participating and aiding in the these functions of satanism, these Ulama should understand that they have abdicated their role. They no longer act as bearers of the Standard of Islam. They have betrayed Islam. They betrayed Allah and His Rasool. They have betrayed the Ummah. They have joined the ranks of the ulama-e-soo’ (the evil ulama) about whom our Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said:

“….They will be the worst evil o­n the surface of the earth under the skies..”

When an Aalim is aware of the haraam activities contemplated after the nikah, then it does not behove him to perform such a nikah. It is his incumbent duty to refuse. Concerned Muslims, i.e. those who are concerned with the Pleasure and Displeasure of Allah, should not participate in even the nikah of persons who will be indulging in haraam satanic activities after the nikah. Their invitation to attend their walimah functions too should not be answered. This is the minimum response which a Muslim conscious of his Imaan should offer. Rasulullah (sallall~hu alayhi wasallam) said:

“Love is for the sake of Allah and hatred is for the sake of Allah.”

When the community can no longer display and express or at least in the heart feel disgust for the haraam being perpetrated, they become lawful commodity for elimination by divine chastisement. It is the obligatory duty of a Muslim to register his/her disgust for Allah’s Sake. If he does not, he should examine if he still has Imaan or not. For the sake of Allah Ta’ala severing family ties is an ibaadat of high merit.

Those who are supposed to be pious and those who are supposed to be Ulama should heed the following Qur’aanic Warning:

“Beware of the Punishment which will not overtake o­nly the transgressors.”

In fact, the first whom the punishment will and should overwhelm are the condescending ulama who have betrayed Allah Ta’ala.

RECIPE FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

[By Jamiatul Ulama Gauteng]

“Our Lord! Grant that our spouses and our offspring be a comfort to our eyes, and give us the grace to lead those who are conscious of You.” [Surah Furqaan, Verse 74]

Question: Every human being by nature has an instinct to dispute. This instinct becomes more manifest between the husband and wife, thus leading to marital disputes. How can this instinct be controlled??

Answer: Consider the following ten points to control the instinct of dispute and maintain a happy marriage.

1. Fear Allah: It was the noble practice of Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wasallam to conscientize the spouses about the fear for Allah before performing a Nikah by reciting the verses (Nisa verse 14, Ahzab verse 69, Aali-Imraan verse 101) from the Quraan Shareef. All the verses are common in the message of Taqwa (fear of Allah). The spouses will be first committed to Allah before being committed to their partner. There can be no doubt in the success of a marriage governed by the fear of Allah.

2. Never be angry at the same time: Anger is the root cause for all marital disputes. One Sahabi came to Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and sought some advice. Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) replied, control your anger. The same advice was rendered three times. [Mishkaat pg.433; HM Saeed]

3. If one has to win an argument, let it be the other: Nabi (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Whoever discards an argument despite being correct shall earn a palace in the centre of Jannah. [Ibid pg.412]

4. Never shout at each other unless the house is on fire: Luqman (Alaihis Salaam) while offering advice to his son said: ”And lower your voice for verily the most disliked voice is that of a donkey”. [Surah Luqman :19]

5. If you have to criticize, do it lovingly: Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, ‘A Mu’ min is a mirror for a Mu’min.’ [Abu Dawud vol.2 pg.325; Imdadiyah] Advise with dignity and advise silently.

6. Never bring up mistakes of the past: Nabi Muhammad (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Whoever conceals the faults of others, Allah shall conceal his faults on the day of Qiyaamah.” [Mishkaat pg.429; HM Saeed]

7. Neglect the whole world rather than your marriage partner: Nabi Muhammad (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) confirmed the advice of Salman to Abu-Darda (Radiayallaahu Anhu) for neglecting his wife. “Verily there is a right of your wife over you.”   [Nasai Hadith 2391]

8. Never sleep with an argument unsettled: Abu Bakr (Radiallahu anhu) resolved his dispute with his wife over-feeding the guests before going to bed. [Bukhari Hadith 602]

9. At least, once a day, express your gratitude to your partner: Nabi Muhammad (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, ‘Whoever does not show gratitude to the people has not shown gratitude to Allah.’ [Abu Dawud pg.662; Karachi]

10. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness: Nabi Muhammad (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, ‘All the sons of Aadam commit error, and the best of those who err are those who seek forgiveness.’ [Tirmidhi  Hadith 2499]

Jahez (Dowry) – THE HARAAM SYSTEM OF MURDERING BRIDES

[Al-Haq]

JAHEZ  is the haraam system of the bride and her family having to pay exorbitant ‘dowry’ to the  groom. It is a brutal and murderous opposite of the Shariah’s system of Mahr which the man is required to pay to his bride. Jahez is literally a system  which leads to killing of the bride and in some cases to the bride committing suicide. It is not known from which Shaitaan have Muslims in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Sri Lanka inherited this barbaric system with regard to which 99.9% of the Ulama in those lands being mute and absolute “DUMB DEVILS”,

This satanic system is so entrenched in the life fabric of Muslim societies of these lands, that it is condoned by even the senior Ulama. The suffering of Muslims in these lands at the hands of the idol-worshipping and cow-worshipping Hindus is therefore not surprising. Perhaps here and there may be heard an isolated whisper of criticism  emanating from some Aalim. The  evil Jahez system is so terribly ingrained in every capillary of the population that even the secular governments are impotent. They have miserably failed to eradicate this abominable system of satanism.

This barbaric system requires the payment of assets – property, cash, furniture, appliances, motorbikes, vehicles, jewellery, etc., etc., by the bride’s family to the bridegroom’s family. If the Jahez requirement has not been fulfilled, the bride is subjected to  great physical and mental abuse. Frequently the bride is murdered, and in some cases, the woman commits suicide to escape the torture of her husband and in-laws. Even in  so-called  respectable and cultured families, while the bride  will not be killed, the custom of Jahez is considered ‘waajib’. It exists even in the homes of Ulama.

Aborting female foetuses is another savage crime and by-product which is perpetrated  by the parents of a woman. If by means of modern technology the gender of the foetus is ascertained to be female, the  baby is aborted – brutally murdered – to avoid paying the jahez in later years. It is akin to the pre-Islam custom of infanticide practised by the Arab mushrikeen who would bury alive their female babies.

Jahez  is the worst form of  savage banditry and extortion which has been accorded acceptability and respectability in the societies of these lands. The  demands  of this system of brutal  banditry continues even after the initial Jahez has been paid.

In NA-Pakistan (the Impure Land) which has a preponderance of ulama-e-soo’, annually 2000 brides are murdered, yet the ulama have deliberately opted to remain deaf, dumb and blind. In India about 8,000 such murders are committed every year.

How is it ever possible for a nation to prosper and lead when the morality of the people is so rotten and savage as to condone the murderous custom of Jahez, and even the brutal killing of brides for their inability  to satisfy in haraam ways the inordinate satanic greed of their in-laws? There are no words which can adequately describe the zulm of these people and the savagery stemming in the wake of this satanic custom.

An occasional whisper by an Aalim does not discharge the obligation of Amr Bil Ma’roof Nahyi Anil Munkar which the  sacred Office of Nubuwwat has placed on the shoulders of the Ulama who are supposed to be the Heirs of the Ambiya (Alayhimus salaam). Both the Ulama and the secular government have terribly failed and abandoned their obligation of eradicating this barbaric system.

While the reluctance to act of the secular kuffaar governments of NA-Pakistan and Bangladesh is understandable, the silence of the Ulama is intolerable and lamentable. There is no justification for abstention from Amr Bil Ma’roof. The secular authorities deem it prudent to appease the juhala masses by refraining from embarking on a policy of eradicating the evil. But what has happened to the Ulama. It is their obligation to initiate an educational and da’wat campaign for the elimination of this savagery which the Ulama are condoning with their silence which is interpreted by the masses as acceptance and validity of the system.

In NA-Pakistan the government, to appease the demands of  the U.S.A., has embarked on a vicious and cruel programme of  forced-immunization. People in even the remote countryside are forcefully vaccinated. Heavy fines and jail sentences are meted out to those who refuse to submit to the haraam vaccination ordered by the U.S. master. Yet, no measures are introduced to eradicate the  haraam Jahez savagery.

The western enemies of Islam,  are swift in attributing this barbaric system to Islam despite being fully aware that there is not the slightest affinity between Islam and this evil custom prevalent in the tribal societies of these countries since time immemorial. The deafening silence of the Ulama serves as silent support for the propaganda of the West against Islam. The silence and apathy of the Ulama are the effects of their desire to appease the juhala. The Qur’aan commands the Ulama to fear only Allah Ta’ala, and to proclaim the Haqq regardless of the displeasure and annoyance of the people. Allah Ta’ala commands:

“Do not fear the people. Fear ME, and do not trade My Aaayaat (Laws/Shariah) for a miserable price).”